The Reasons the world’s needs more Awesome Business Women!

The dedication to some top business women! (From Left to Right), Jenny Kuo, Drina Ng and Martha Arifin.

The dedication to some top business women! (From Left to Right), Jenny Kuo, Drina Ng and Martha Arifin.

After an amazing day working with some amazing Business Women I would like to dedicate this article to three Savvy Operators in particular, Jenny Kuo, Drina Ng and Martha Arifin.

One big trend in society which I am a massive fan of these days are the fact that the ruling majority of new businesses are started by women! After working for years in the Corporate Environment and watching women first hand get harassed, overlooked for promotions (even when they were more competent than their “Male” co-workers), are treated as “Objects of Desire” and just not present at the Senior Management levels – it got me thinking about the general nature of many workplaces.  I even knew of one situation where an Assistant was expected to provide various “Services” to retain her position by one evil boss.

And in speaking to many fantastic successful business women, I hear this one all the time:

– Men just got promoted over me regardless of the money I made or how hard I worked.

Being raised by a strong mother who was a Police Inspector looking after the household, watching her almost die from “Terminal Cancer” (she is still around thank god) and seeing the hardships she put up with because “She was a chick” has got me really reflecting on the problems in our modern workplace.

Don’t get me wrong, some workplaces are great and some women do great ahead – but I am referring to the general treatment they get.  What really brings a smile to my dial is that you get women like Jenny, Drina and Martha who rebel – go off and do their own thing and BEAT HEAPS OF MEN they once worked with!

Even if they have rocky starts like I did and go through tough times, the process of becoming and succeeding as a business owner is nothing short of rewarding and liberating – once we are free of the Corrupt and Soul Eating corporate machine for good!

I can completely understand the reasoning why women are going out into their own businesses in droves – quite simply because they believe they can provide better for their families on their own than “Trusting” the corporate machine.

For that reason and the fact that women are cool and relationship focused is all the justification to me why the world needs more of them!

Keep up the fine work Jenny Kuo, Drina Ng and Martha Arifin – fine examples to us all!

Positive Thinking and Getting Ripped Off: Not this time!

Not this time buddy! My turn you evil Positive Thinking Nutjobs!

Not this time buddy! My turn you evil Positive Thinking Nutjobs!

I have had one annoying, but now I am writing this blog “quite humorous” week.  Between this “positive thinker” slandering me at a networking event and getting ripped off recently while trying to do the right thing by someone, it really got me reflecting on the past about “positive thinking” and all that great stuff.

Since I have started this blog, I have been in business for about 2.5 years and I am going strong.  I am very lucky and pinch myself every day, but I continually think I have done this by NOT being a positive thinker.  When my life wasn’t working, I used to bury myself in the hype and delusion of positive thinking by entering poor business ventures, giving the last of my little coins to corrupt motivational guys and of course being the world’s door-mat.

Looking back on my life over the last few years and the progression I have made, it’s been on the back of “negative thinking” or if you may “balanced thinking”. That is, I have been looking at things as they are, dealing with problems as they come up, watching out for things coming my way, but trying to be as positive about things as possible.

And it works! It works great too.

The thing I am reflecting on is how I got ripped off recently. I had a few get me actually including this lovely positive thinker! Basically not paying my bills for a great deal of work we had done!

I can also predict how this character would respond, that is – they will sit back and no doubt use “positive thinking” and convince themselves how great they are and that I really deserved it.

The good news with this one, is that I didn’t use any “positive thinking” to counter this one.  In fact, I have been very direct with them, defended myself and won’t be supporting their business interests any further (even if they do choose to pay me, even with a deposit).

It’s been a strange trend, the people I have found who are most obsessed with this superficial form of “lame positive thinking” are the first ones to always try messy and unethical business moves.

So what I have I learned over the past few years of business? Be fair, stand up for yourself, and “don’t be positive”.  Ha ha, I sound like a cynic now and perhaps I am.

But one must be careful, it’s a jungle out there!

Positive Thinking and Getting Shafted by a “Positive Person”

Was she not being Positive Enough? Of course not and we got to be on the guard for scumbags trying to rip us off!

Was she not being Positive Enough? Of course not and we got to be on the guard for scumbags trying to rip us off!

OK get ready to have a good laugh at my expense!  The other day I got shafted by an ex-client who ripped myself and a friend off who was working with them on their business.  Interesting I worked with them ages ago and they were “OK”, but this time they went down the evil, unethical path and would probably be the person that would enjoy stealing $1 from a homeless person to put in a pokie machine (i.e. “slot machine” if you are reading this from North America).

Quite sad actually, we used to quite like this person but they did mean things, after mean things and there is nothing but to conclude that they are an “evil person” who is just trying to rip everyone off.  I am not too worried, I got a long paper trail and a debt collector is now after this person hopefully to dispense some badly needed justice.

In terms of “positive thinking” and all that rubbish, I am enjoying considering situations like these looking at them through that prism.  That is, in “positive thinking” there is no such thing as traffic, bills, problems, poverty and everything is rosy.  This obviously (besides being delusional) sets one up with a level of naivety that people like “evil person above”.  The evil person above (let’s call them “Jane”) enjoys positive people.

Why does “Jane” like that? Because she can get in there, take advantage of them, clean them out and just move onto the next target.

This is where positive thinking has got to stop and when you see a ratbag like this taking advantage of people, you apply “negative thinking” with extreme force.  Not to just protect yourself, but you have to stop these people.  If you don’t do something to punish them, they will just move onto the next target and the next.

When the debt collectors finish with “Jane”, she will certainly think twice about ripping me and my friend off yet again.

In fact, I got badly ripped off again late last year by this certain person as well.  It hurt, it was painful but like all things – it makes you tougher and although I wasn’t in a position to effectively retaliate on this one, I could certainly take care of “Jane”.  For the person that nailed me last year, I am going to have to leave this in the hands of Jesus / karma / God to take care of them.

So positive thinking huh? Obviously it doesn’t take much logic to completely debunk positive thinking and unfortunately there are a lot of scum-bags out there. So protect yourself my friends! Be trusting, but be careful.  Look after those that need it and punish the wicked.

Dodgy, evil positive thinkers deserve punishment so hit them with a round of negativity for me!  Hope you love this one, feel free to drop me a line anytime if you got some stories to share!

The Shonk Conning me into a Pyramid Scheme! Nice.

Love to lock up this evil Moron!

Love to lock up this evil Moron!

I had a funny, yet annoying phone conversation with some mean idiot the other day.  I have known this fellow for a while and in the last 6 months – I think he has gone through about 4 Dodgy Multi-Level Marketing Schemes.

Now, I don’t hate all MLM’s (some are quite good) – but I have a problem with the evil & unethical high pressure / misleading sales tactics used.

I was busy working away seeing clients and I got a call from this fellow.  He started to ask me quite a few private questions about my business (i.e which put me on edge) and then said:

– Do I have just 1 hour to see a presentation on Saturday?

I was like – no thank you, I am too busy.  I kept giving hints and this guy just couldn’t stop trying to push me to an event.  I started getting angry and was that close to screaming at him and then he got the message.

He then had the audacity to try and make out I was “Close Minded” because I didn’t want to go.

What was sad about this is that his “Bully / Shonk” approach would have worked on some people.  Then because bullying worked, it would justify and drive his own behaviour.

I really hate this guy and everything he stands for and I hope he calls me again! At the very least, I can tell every one around town to watch out for him.

So if you are caught up in those Pyramid Schemes, please be careful – make sure you don’t use their dirty trick on your friends and family!

The MEAN Bully who Played Victim

I heard that Bullies love being hit by bats.

I heard that Bullies love being hit by bats.

At a Networking Group some time ago, a few of this had this very strange experience with this individual.  Firstly, the person came to our Networking Group and appeared to have a great time.

The person appeared to integrate well, was well accepted and I even thought they may want to join us.  We joked around a bit and they were happy.

Then the next day, I got this very strange email from them saying “I made fun of them and they were so upset”.  I made this funny remark to them and they were all upset and offended.  Even though I thought they were not being very reasonable, I then apologized.

I then heard from this person about 1 month later and they were my best friend.

I moved and forgot about it, and then one of my friends at the same time had an almost identical experience with this mean individual.  That is – for no “Common Sense” reason, the person blew up at them, demanding an apology.  Once given, the person backed down.

Strange pattern and I knew it – this person has some type of selfish problem and is just projecting it onto everyone.  I then bumped into this person, said hello and they “Snobbed” me off.

On a funny note, this person probably weights about 50kg and is actually quite a non-intimidating figure, but loves to hit people from a distance with mean emails.  So I thought this one through and picked up on an interesting pattern.

This person is a MEAN bully! They enjoy the power kick they get from pushing people around.  They were quite sophisicated actually, they turn on the “Waterworks” and get all “Upset” and play Victim.

Years ago, I worked in this one role and there was this mean bully who was protected by Management.  They did what they wanted and when they got into trouble, they turned on the “Waterworks” to get off the hook.

So clever strategy! These MEAN people play victim so people back off and then manipulate and bully people.  When they get found out, the “Waterworks” go on.

Well MEAN person.  If you are reading this blog, you know who you are.  I am up for a rematch if you are! So be careful out there! If someone is playing victim too much, I bet they are trying to work you over. I heard that bullies liked to be whacked with sticks.  They really do – so you should try it!

The Evil Boss: Fired me just before end of Probation.

Tom & Rob + Evil Bosses.  From all of us working people, you suck and I hope you get what you deserve! :)

To All Evil Bosses – From all of us working people, you suck and I hope you get what you deserve!

Before I pull out the violins and tell my sob story – I just wanted to point out how common my story is. I know quite a few people around town who have started new jobs (i.e. including ones when they were poached) and they worked their hardest to make the best first impression and succeed in their roles.  Their bosses would “Make them feel good” and then at the last minute, with no warning – would fire them say 1 – 3 days before the end of their probation.

I once had this type of experience.  Some time ago, I had a Marketing Manager role for a Large Corporate.  I originally didn’t want the job, but this evil manipulative man by the name of “Richard”, backed up by his sinister HR person “Norbert” – lured me into this job.

It was a tough job, I worked my butt off – did some crazy hours and at about 10 weeks I checked in how things were going.  They told me I was great and nothing to worry about (where my probation ended on week 12 – i.e. 3 months).

Then what happened, about 2 days from the end – they got rid of me.  The reality was that conditions changed in the business and they couldn’t keep me – but instead of saying that, they just made up fictional stuff that couldn’t be substantiated.

Is this just me not being able to take feedback? Not at all.  If they hated me great or if there are issues – tell me so I can fix it.  But NO – they just got rid of me, tried to pin it on me so they could duck responsibility.

Both “Richard” and “Norbert” were evil little cowards and I would certainly enjoy finding them in a dark alley at some point.  They were just greedy little politians who enjoyed hurting others to make themselves look good.

As you can tell, there is a bit of venom in me on this one – but what makes me quite sad, is that my story is nothing compared to what I have heard others go through out there.  So what is my lesson and thoughts on this one? If you don’t have a business, the reality is that you need your job and you just can’t punch people in the head.

But what I would say is that if you are getting a raw deal, make sure you don’t make my mistake and sit there unhappy and blame everyone.  By all means, defend yourself against evil bullies, BUT make sure you are looking for a better deal.

This may be within the organization or outside of there! I learnt that the most “Loyal” people in Corporates earn’t the lowest level of pays and gained the least respect.  The most valued were the ones that continually moved and had amazing CV’s.

Interesting no? Anyway – “Richard” & “Norbert” – if you read this one day, I hope you have changed your wicked ways.  If not, hopefully someone will trash your car in the next few days. Protect yourself everyone and stay strong! The world is too small for evil bosses these days!

The Evil Networking Director who Bullied Us. What?

If I only gave the Jerk more Cold Shoulder at the Time! Rats :) If you are out there Richard, I am up for Round #2!

If I only gave the Jerk more Cold Shoulder at the Time! If you are out there “Brian”, I am up for Round #2!

If you know me, this has been quite a “Corner Stone” / “War Story” of me starting up my business.  Even though I wished too, I didn’t want to publicly name the Networking Group that did this to us.  I know some good people in it – and if I was to publicly name the group, it would make it just harder for them – but believe me, I would like too!

However, in light of protecting my buddies – I still wanted to present this story as a warning to everyone else out there.  When I first started my business, it was tough.  I was under-confident, not too happy, had Vista-Print business cards and no money.  So going out to a Networking Group for the first time was hard as!

I then found a local Networking Referral Group.  If you aren’t familiar with this wording – it’s not so much a Networking Group where you meet people (e.g. say 4Networking) – it’s more of “Closed Network” where  you purchase a seat.  That is – you have one of each profession and YOU MUST refer to each of them.

The Group measures you by the number of visitors and referrals you give and if you don’t deliver – you will get shunned and eventually kicked out.

There was a start-up chapter of this group nearby in Inner West Sydney.  It was about $1100 to join and besides the odd person I didn’t get along with – it was a great group of people.  Then about the 4th meeting, we have this “Director” by the name of “Brian” come along.

The man was mean and abusive and sat there and told us all that we have to “Bring Visitors” along.  If we didn’t, we would be asked to leave.

That day, quite a few members left the group and had quite a horrible reaction to being treated this way (i.e. it wasn’t just my view, it was a common view of this being handled poorly).  It put an incredible amount of stress on me and it was some very tough times for me.

I found another Networking Group which was fantastic (i.e. 4Networking which I love), and then about 3 months later the Chapter collapsed.  So I bet on the right horse and did well getting out of there!

I think I grew up 5 years in 2 months over this experience and it taught me of some of the lack of ethics some people have.  When people start out in business, they are already going up against the odds – and some evil characters exploit this.  I always said to myself, if I see this “Brian” fellow in the street – I would give him a piece of my mind.

He is the type of character I bet that would often be rude to waitresses and probably have beaten up smaller children than him when he was at Primary School.

My lesson is one big time – if you are starting out, make sure you are mixing with a positive and supportive crowd that have your interests at heart! If you get caught up in the wrong circles like I did – don’t take it, don’t get upset, just move on! I was very lucky to meet the likes of Grant Dempsey from 4Networking to help me back on my feet!  As for you “Brian”, if you ever read this blog – be thankful I didn’t use your last name.  I probably should have you meanie!

So if you know who I am talking about, make sure you try and steal his wallet if you see him in the street!

Here’s to looking after and protecting the underdog!

The Arrogant & Fat Business Coach who said I suck.

I can't wait till I see this Fat Meanie Again :)

I can’t wait till I see this Fat Meanie Again!

One of the fantastic people I work with (by the name of Ralph Rintoule – a high end Property Investor) has been a fantastic reverse client.  That is – although he has hired me for Marketing Help, his years of experience has “Reverse Mentored” me in many ways.

He said something quite interesting the other day in that:

– When we start out, we secrete a “Pheromone” which causes every leech to try and take advantage of us.

That is so true – now I am well beyond “Start Up” stage and have an established business – the people that pushed me around at the start, I am actually now competing with and winning. This is not because I am “Brilliant”, but because I am not a stupid, arrogant or an  unqualified liar like some people I am talking about.

This one fat guy I am talking about in particular, I met when I started my business.  He is this “Awesome Business Coach” and when I had Vista Print Business Cards, no money and was very insecure – he used it as an opportunity to try and intimidate me in front of other people. He questioned what I did, my credentials, my training and I feel very bad for a few days.  2 years later, I am an Sponsor of one of the events he now visits infrequently and he must be making no money.

One time I saw him at an event, my blood boiled and I said to my friend next to me “Hey you see that fat dickhead? Yes, he is the guy who pushed me around when I started”.  The fat dickhead heard me and awesome – he got really intimated and now won’t even come near me. Besides fulfilling my no doubt “Immature” need for retribution, when I speak to many “Zeros to Heroes” I work with – they all have similar stories.  They started, had no money, no network – odds were against them and horrible scum bags like this fellow put them down.

And they found it distressing, but what was very funny – was each of these people often within 12 months grew and overtook the capacity of the people attacking them. It’s not very nice and these people totally suck.  I am glad that this dickhead who put me down, is a fat loser – and is making no money from the networking group. Competitor or not, we must all remember how hard it is starting something new – and just because evil people were mean to us, doesn’t give us any right to be mean to others.

People starting out need support and care! In fact, I have been making this a point of in my business – and people who may have Vista Print business cards need a helping hand – not abuse like this evil idiot dished out. Perhaps next time I see him, I may *Accidentally* bump into him.  Hopefully into oncoming traffic.  People who start out in business needs support – so next time you are at a Networking Event, remember yourself in that position!

And if you happen to be the Fat Business Coach reading this article who bullied me when I started out – I hope you change your wicked ways!

Positive Thinking Wackos: Business is Easy? Right.

I Awesome and So Positive.  And Sane.

I Awesome and So Positive. And Sane.

I remember meeting a few of the Positive Thinking morons out there that think everything “Is Easy”.

I think some genuinely are feeding themselves a line as part of the their “Positive Thinking Delusion”, however the majority I have found are trying to Scam You, Put you down or Take Advantage of you in some way.

If I consider the wealthiest people I directly work with – they are all very similar in their outlooks.  They are all realists and openly say things to the effect of:

– Life is Hard, Get used to it, Deal with It.

The (general poor & unsuccessful) Positive Thinkers I know run around despite the disasters around them saying junk like:

– I am Awesome. Life is great.  It’s just so super.

What is sad about this is that their own dishonesty to themselves is putting them into a position where they can’t help themselves.  That is – if things aren’t good, you have to admit that – so you can do something about it.

Not distort reality so it’s all shitty and you can’t do a damn thing about it.

In quite a few of the “Positive Thinking Cults” that have really harmed some top people I know.  They are always pushing this type of thing.  For example, one you know in particular work;s hard to make out “Every Business is so hard”, but our system is just “So Easy”.

If this was the case, then why in Sydney there are so many people who have lost out to to this company.  I know, it’s because “They didn’t follow the system”, “They are bad”, “They are Stupid”.  I have actually heard people from that company say that by the way – and in the same breathe they say how fantastic their lives and businesses are.

Then of course, they are driving cars less than $2,000, overweight, working full time jobs and going to rally’s week after week.

If you are one of those Positive Thinking liars trying to con people – either stop it, or go and kill yourself.  The world doesn’t need people like you corrupting it.

If you are however (like I was and many of my friends), one of those poor people caught up in this web deceit – please take a deep breathe and protect yourself from these people.  Go and talk to someone you trust, and if you don’t go and walk into a Church, Synagogue, Mosque or whatever you are into and talk to the Spiritual figure there.

Make sure you don’t end up manipulated and canon fodder for these wackos!

Evil MLM’s: Forcing innocents to buy Motivational Rubbish?

A good way to redeem yourself? :)

A good way to redeem yourself?

I have seen this on blogs for sometime, but I have met someone who was previously “High Up” in this dodgy MLM you all know about.  Whey the reached a certain level, they were told to start “Forcing” people beneath them to purchase Motivational Goods by their own upline.

If you don’t know much about this system, it’s quite a monolitihic organization that works by you building “Your Team” beneath you.  It’s your job to get them to sign up as many people as possible and as your empire get’s bigger, you get a cut of what they do.

What has been discussed a lot though, is that many people in this system make more out of peddling their own “Motivational Goods” than from the actual system itself.  I know people that are reporting this now – which combined with the wealth of information on the internet, makes me think it’s true.

This is very sad.  If this is really occuring, then this dodgy MLM besides being deceptive is truly Evil in that respect.  I do suspect this is quite true in that expect for say 1 or 2 – almost everyone I have met from this organization have used Deceptive Tactics to lure me to events.  Combined with that person that tried to bully me – it all fits! The story comes together nicely.

And what’s better is that they use the charade of “Positive Thinking” to make out they are visionary and “Loving” people of course.

Ha ha – I think you are getting busted dodgy people from this MLM! Even better, in the Networking Events I am going too – people trying to rip people off using this system are become alienated and don’t even finish the events (i.e. they leave early).

If you are one of these bad people, refer to the nice image for “Spiritual Guidance”.

Dodgy MLMs: Turning great people into LOSERS!

Want to come to a Meeting?

Want to come to a Meeting?

Some of these dodgy MLM’s are amazing.  You have to admit that.  Despite the Court Actions and the evils committed – they are still going.  And what brings me incredible sadness is what I have seen them do first hand to some fantastic people.

About 2 great people I know – true, honest characters, with great ethics and a sense of honour to do the right thing – were at a desperate point at their lives.  With the carefully (and almost criminal genius level) constructed sales pitch – they were conned into joining one of these rip-off organizations in Sydney.

I originally told them to leave – they said I was “Wrong” and “Dis-empowering”.   Now, these poor characters have nothing – save to say upset friends and family, a ruined reputation and lost opportunity.  Even worse, their financial set backs hurt their family.

One of my great buddies Lorna Hollinger (who is a pro in NLP) grilled me today and asked “Why am I so uptight about [insert evil company name]?”.

It got me thinking and seeing great people lose out so some fat cats get rich greatly upsets me.  I supposedly am a Christian, so if I am really a Christian I better do some good by protecting those who are being harmed.  To me, deep down – seeing my friends being effectively turned into “Losers” has made me thing – this is wrong and it must be stopped!

One thing that Lorna did get me thinking about and I wanted to make clear is that not everyone is evil in these systems.  Don’t get me wrong, a good chunk of them obviously are by their actions – but some great people have been fooled into what is becoming well known as a dangerous scheme around Sydney.

So please, if you have good friend get caught up with these schemes – by all means, they are responsible for their actions – but try and give them some compassion.  It’s the only way to best show them the light to win them back! As for you evil MLM people – leave my friends alone! You have taken out two of them.  You have enough – stop hurting them!

If you are an evil MLM person, feel free to leave your Home Address and details of where you keep your spare house key. Come on, you know you want too – it will help you become “Financially Free”.

The Synergy between Automatic Weapons and Dodgy MLM’s

Me on the weekend fighting Amway :)

Me on the weekend the evil MLM’s on the weekend! (I wish – Awesome Fun here!)

As you can probably tell – this well know particular MLM has scammed me for the last time.  Whenever I hit the City Speed Networking Events (which I really like BTW), there is always some evil person peddling their dodgy pyramid schemes.

I am attacking the dozens of people I met who break the law everyday when it comes to the Trade Practices Act.  That is – they go to events and use their “Charm” to lure people to Coffee Chats for other reasons.

Then, while they have you – they start scamming you with a pre-planned questionnaire designed to get to your wallet.But there is some good news! Besides me strongly suspecting that Automatic Weaponry and dodgy MLM’s mix well (Boy I would love to see that!) – many of these scum-bags don’t even make the event.

That is, they come in – try and screw everyone and very quickly they start getting ignored.    And you hear people bantering, “Watch out for him / her – she is trying to scam us with this X scheme”.

So let’s get together and shoot some evil MLM people tonight who have no respect for good honest business people, trying to make a living the “Right” way.