I love helping people get more ‘ABUNDANT’. The one with the higher will power wins!
It has been a wonderful Sunday in Sydney of doing ‘Daddy’ stuff for me. I have been to the gym, shopping for the family, coming back to help my wonderful wife look after my daughter and have finally sat at my desk to write my daily blog.
As Jesus / the Universe provides, one of my wonderful friends *Mandy* asked me to write a blog through Facebook Messenger (*names changed to protect confidentiality, rest is all as is).
They are in the Coaching space and are an emerging Leader / Commander that I have extremely high hopes for. It’s early days in their business and they are going through what I once went through; rejection, hard work, early results and developing an ‘Abundance Mindset’.
This is what they asked me, and I want you to enjoy my reply as follows:
- “I’ve got a great blog topic for you Edward. After my experience with *Rachael*, I’m sitting here feeling like she’s pulled me down to her level. Do you know what I mean?
- The Coach/Mentor obviously is way advance of the client. So, the client wants to be where the coach/mentor is in success.
- But because the client is at a lower level of thinking or feeling etc because they haven’t reached enlightenment yet, they tend to drag you down to their level.
- Can you write a blog for us as Entrepreneurs how to overcome the pull down?”
To best answer this, I wanted to respond to each paragraph to really unpack and explore this:
Q. After my experience with *Rachael*, I’m sitting here feeling like she’s pulled me down to her level. Do you know what I mean?
A. This is extremely true and happens to the best of us at times if we don’t stay strong. People who are highly negative and assertive, can be extremely effective at changing the moods of other people. The old saying ‘Misery Attracts Company’ comes to mind. These people are like aliens who are trying to mind control you. It’s critical to resist their mind control and push back. I tell them off for being negative, so I end up controlling them and lifting their mood (or getting rid of them). Maintain your own thoughts and mood always. You control that!
Q. The Coach/Mentor obviously is way advance of the client. So, the client wants to be where the coach/mentor is in success.
A. That is not completely correct. Clients want to get more success than what their Coach or Mentor has. I have done this many times in that I have helped people go from start-up to multi-millionaire where they have more money than me! One has a $20,000,000+ business in 6 years and God Bless them. There is a key point though, ‘bad clients’ don’t want to succeed really. They are just screwing around. The big ones go for the stars and I have helped enable many to get there.
Q. But because the client is at a lower level of thinking or feeling etc because they haven’t reached enlightenment yet, they tend to drag you down to their level.
A. If someone tends to ‘drag’ you to their level, it means you must become stronger in your own thinking. It means they have more will power than you, so when you interact they successfully ‘psych’ you out and you get pulled down. The solution is to strengthen your own thinking, so they can say whatever they want to you and it has no impact. You want the tables to reverse too, you end up ‘smashing’ them so they turn around. I do this all the time and it rocks!
My advice and thinking? You want to take people to a higher level and stay strong. It’s critical to do that and what I find critical every day is too:
– Keep pushing yourself.
– Take in positive materials.
– Read my Business & Marketing Plan daily.
– Get inspired by my Power Wall / Vision Board.
– If I do get ‘psyched out’, I get myself back to high energy quickly.
– Stay high energy!
It’s critical to note too, this is a journey wonderful friends! I used to have low will power and get psyched out all the time, now I psych out people when they try and psych me out; it rocks!
Abundance thinking is everything and sometimes you just gotta make people ‘Abundant’, I just works.
Love your work, thank you for the read, best of luck *Mandy*! I hope you teach *Rachael* a lesson!
P.S. You rock *Mandy*, you are learning in months what takes many years and keep it up!