This one happened to me a short while ago, as I am still relatively new in business (only about 2 years) it was quite upsetting at the time – now I find it funny, amusing and a great battle scar / war story to share with my clients and friends alike.
I had a great one of this “Positive Thinking” lady who just knew everything and lead me on to scam me for a few free hours of consulting. She would sit me down, tell me everything is wonderful and even during the meeting tried to ask me to “Do it for Free” or do a “Profit Share” if things work out for her.
After spending a good hour or more there – I knew she certainly wasn’t a nice person, let along anyone I would want to work with as a client. I left her office thinking “No Way”. They then took all my ideas, spoke to another Consultant and signed them up. What hurt even more, was I knew this other person that even knew what was going on – and encouraged that mean woman to screw me over.
I didn’t want to work with them at all, but the pain was more about how they just screwed me over without any regard and with complete malice.
What was funny now about this whole process was the whole “Positive Thinking”. This woman gave me a lecture on how great positive thinking was, how awesome she is – and unless anyone thinks the way she does – they are total losers.
What was funny was that she was in poor physical health, I bet lacked friends and wasn’t doing well financially at all (despite working hard to convince me otherwise).
So what is this trend? Why do all these people who use Positive Thinking as their religion usually come across as self-centered like this?
After thinking this through and see dozens (if not over 100 examples) of this play out over and over again, I think “Positive Thinking” leads to selfish actions. For example, if you say do something bad to someone – and you “Feel Guilty” let’s say, that guilt is great as it motivates you to look at yourself, correct that behaviour and improve your giving capacity.
Know this is where great Positive Thinking comes in – instead of using the guilt to serve you, you can make yourself feel good with tons of Positive Thinking. Then you are done – no more guilt feeling, you feel great – so now it’s time to screw over some other person and take their hard earned cash of them.
Even though part of me wants to publicly name this person, it’s not how I roll. But you bad person, if you ever read this blog – I hope you change your wicked ways! Or you rip off the wrong person who will change your wicked ways for you! Don’t let Positive Thinking twist your ethics!