From my previous posts, you have no doubt picked up I emotionally knocked around a bit the previous week. Nothing serious – but it was an event which hit on a nerve of mine since childhood.
Strangely enough, the event is no longer the issue -it’s been my emotional response to it that has been! After “Coaching Myself” and thinking it all through – I actually tried a bit of “Positive Thinking”. Ha ha and while you are reading this and laughing at me for the obvious contradiction / hypocrisy I have engaged it, it really has reinforced my view here.
Emotionally I was going crazy, i.e. reliving the event, churning myself about it and all that type of thing. Whenever I used “Positive Thinking” to wish myself better and focus on the “Good Stuff” it actually made me feel worse.
That is, until I confronted the issues in my own thinking and dealt with them in a Realistic way, it kept driving me crazy.
That is the big issue of positive thinking and why many highly regarded and trained Psychologists speak out against it. It causes you not to deal with your issues, but to let them fester and create more of a problem.
I confronted some of my own childhood experiences (and early Corporate Days) in which I used to feel bad and always thinking “I was loser” and nicely empowering things like that. Well as I write this post, I am doing exactly that – looking at myself “Objectively” and taking out all the negativity from the past this experience brought up in me. So here is my big advice / lesson from this one, don’t be a positive thinking nutjob! Identify the issues in your life and deal with them! Head on – deal with it.
Then you will be “Truly Positive” and not projecting your issues onto everyone else!