“Focusing on only what you can control” – A Challenging View from Joel Curtis the Psychologist!

Joel Curtis speaking at Squeeze Business Networking Parramatta.  The man makes a great deal of sense and made a point about only focusing on what you can control.  Love it!

Joel Curtis speaking at Squeeze Business Networking Parramatta. The man makes a great deal of sense and made a point about only focusing on what you can control. Love it!

Tonight I am still on a massive high after our FREE Squeeze Business Networking Event.  We have been running this event for about 3 years now and it’s the Monthly, Free Speed Networking type of event where I am lucky to meet heaps of great people around the traps.

Speaking at our event this night was Joel Curtis the Psychologist.  You may have read about him in some of my previous blogs and he is a high end operator that owns several practices, has worked with some big sporting teams and is also a Leader in the 4Networking Business Community.

We hear about “Mindset” all the time (even I have spoken on it as a Marketing Guy) and hearing it from an actual psychologist to me gives a new sense of meaning to it.  I think “Business Mindset” is overused and is often mistaught in the market and the reality is that all Joel does is deal with issues of the mind in this regard.  During his presentation he gave some really good advice in this area and he used a great boxing analogy to describe.

Sure, I know how to fight very well (I am probably quite rusty though) and have been in many fights for my life in my older years (however I have never boxed before).  Still what he said made a great deal of sense to me and the audience:

“Once you are in the ring, you can’t control the judges, what the crowd thinks of you, even your opponent – all you can do is control your own behaviour and your preparation to do the right thing!”

This is great and to me totally relates to business.  The reality is that there are so many variables that we need to control in our business life.  I once had a client that I worked really hard to help.  I was there at their back & call, did what they asked and one day they just called up with attitude challenging me.  I was nice, explained myself, gave them some direct advice and they got “Offended” and wouldn’t talk to me again! I was like WTF and when Joel told this story that came to mind.

Basically, I know acted with integrity, did the right thing and even left the door open after they tried to slam it in my face – however I can’t control that person! All I can do was do the right thing and let whatever results fall where they shall fall.

In business, all we can do at times is control our own thinking and game.  With Joel telling me this story from this viewpoint, it gave me a strong sense of salvation & relief.  Things happen, people can do crazy stuff, some things are in your control and some aren’t – and that is okay! He gave some great advice which was all about taking your focus onto things YOU CAN CONTROL AND INFLUENCE.

My advice and thinking? Don’t take Mindset Advice from me – Google Joel Curtis and speak to him.  My view of all this is that it’s very true.  We live in some crazy modern times and sometimes keeping our “Head Straight” is easier than it sounds.  These pearls of wisdom are great, sometimes we need help and reality – keeping your focus on what you can do is most likely an idea that will keep us healthy, wealthy and much wiser!

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