Joel Curtis the Psychologist is one sharp operator who understands not only the mind, but how to create long lasting mindset changes for people living “in the real world”. I have found much “Pop-Psychologist” advice out there just plainly doesn’t work. Years ago when I was going through a massive challenges in my own life, I went out to seek much of this help. After watching “The Secret” and trying all that “Positive-Thinking” unfounded thinking, it didn’t work for me and in fact – much of all the hype left me out of pocket and even worse than when I started.
Without the violins and being factual, I have had quite a different / hard life along with some of my great friends. My own view is that depending on the life you have lead, your decisions, your pre-disposition and what happens to you – it all has a bearing onto your strengths and challenges when it comes to the mind.
For me, “Anxiety & Stress” with negative thinking patters take hold have been a massive issue for me. Over the last say 2 – 3 years, I have really fought them hard and really sought to improve myself. My pattern quite often has been getting “Hooked” on some possible future scenario (usually of very low probability) and thinking about it over and over again and almost obsessing on it. I have come along way in dealing with these negative thought patterns and in fact this article is perfect timing for me from the amazing Joel Curtis – I think it really hits the nail on the head and trust you will enjoy it as much as I did!
Being awesome isn’t for everyone – By Joel Curtis the Psychologist:
It takes a lot of effort and energy to create awesomeness. The issue for most people is that they don’t understand their own emotions. People get caught up in what is happening right in front of them. Their only focus is on managing the problem which is in the immediate view. When you get stuck in the emotion of the present it becomes very difficult to control your reactions.
Most people focus on trying to feel good. Their actions become about what is best for them in the present moment. Anything that gets in the way of them feeling happy creates fear and anxiety.
Making happiness the focus in life is never a good idea.
So if focusing on happiness isn’t a good idea what is?
Knowing where you are going and what you are trying to achieve is a better way to focus on life. By taking a bigger picture view it allows you to focus less on daily issues and more on the long term goal. Suddenly life has more purpose than just trying to be happy. Daily problems become less significant and easier to overcome. Happiness isn’t important while feeling inspired and staying motivated becomes easier and automatic.
When you become more focused on where you are going, rather than what is happening to you, there is only one result – Awesomeness.
If you want my advice don’t worry about being happy be awesome instead.
Joel Curtis – The Psychologist.
Perfect timing for me in hearing this, I have had some issues in life and business bother me as of late – and hearing this advice is just purely amazing in my view. I was even thinking about some issues lately and the moment I apply this thinking to focus on the “Bigger Picture” and what I have planned it changes everything for better. I feel better, I don’t worry about things out of my own control and I CAN GET MORE STUFF DONE which I like to think makes me awesome.
Thank you again to Joel Curtis – Google him anytime!
You are Awesome and thank you!