This rarely happens to me when people get into my head, solve my massive mindset issues and help me get epiphany’s like I got today. Belinda Verne is this very intelligent, sharp and perceptive almost “Clarice Starling” (Jodie Foster from Silence of the Lambs) type of character who I have utmost respect for.
She has been my Chiropractor for a long time and I she has spent a great deal of her time with Personal Development & also studying courses on the mind. Belinda blew me away today with some thinking / advice around my own issues of Self-Worth, dealing with being forced single again as well as getting over my needs for external validation from others.
Since I have been single for about a month, I have had a great deal of insecurity and fears really come to the surface. Ironically for me, my business is totally rocking right now – and in terms of “Relationships & Girls” this has been a challenge for me.
As Belinda was stretching me, poking my body, tapping parts of it, doing tests and helping with my structure / posture – her sharp witted intense conversation was basically doing the same thing to my brain. I told her straight out what happened to me with being single all of a sudden – and she was getting to the heart of my issues quite quickly.
In short, this is what I felt and her powerhouse response that made me feel instantly better, lifted and gave me a sense of relief:
Edward’s Feelings / Issues:
– I was feeling lonely, very anxious about finding the “Right Woman” and starting a family, concerned about what happened / went wrong in my last relationship and worried about my future relationship – I have been engaged twice in my life now and both ended badly. Lots of insecurity and doubt!
Belinda’s Powerhouse “Excuse Cutting” Response:
– Belinda was very quick to identify that my problems was that “I was not complete” outside of a relationship. I never realized this and she explained to me that my pain came from that feeling under the surface. I need to “Feel Complete” by myself – and that is how I speak to myself internally in that moment. Get that right – and then the right lady shall come.
My Feelings & Response:
This was an instant sigh of relief to see the error in my thinking. Even though on the logical surface I didn’t think that, on an “Emotional Level” I had some really poor thinking in this regard. Belinda’s thinking really hit the spot in that regard and I strangely feel a massive load off my shoulders. For me, the cure is really in the moment. I need to “Feel Complete” completely by myself and not be dependent on anything outside / anyone for this feeling. By being strong in this regard and “Internally Driven” it shall make me incredibly more effective in business & life!
My response and learnings today? It’s great to have Coaches, Mentors, Psychologists and the like supporting you especially at big times of change in your life. For me, I wasn’t conscious to this limitation in my own thinking and Belinda totally nailed it.
Love her work and stay tuned! This lovely friend of mine has more great things to come………