Overcoming TROLLS

Trolls can cause mental anguish at the start, but we can conquer them over time!

Trolls can cause mental anguish at the start, but we can conquer them over time!

There has been something in water lately in terms of many wonderful people I care for dealing with trolling on many levels.

To give you some context here, I have gone to Google to get a recent definition of ‘Trolls’ or ‘Troll’ to help explore this more. Definitions include:

–          (in folklore) an ugly cave-dwelling creature depicted as either a giant or a dwarf.

–          a person who makes a deliberately offensive or provocative online post.

When it comes to dealing with trolls, it’s quite often in response to something that has already been posted. The obvious place of course is Facebook comments, but other forms of online abuse and trolling can come even the form of nasty emails and tweets.

I have been dealing with trolls for years and usually once or twice a week some trolling will be sent my way. They are almost always totally unhinged people with a range of obvious psychological issues that will only take watching a few episodes of Dr. Phil to effectively diagnose as an ‘armchair’ physician.

I once had this experience some years back when someone friended me on Facebook. They were a friend of a friend, so I let it happen. This person then started friending some of my female friends and in their odd attempt at ‘romance’ they started sending them different types of vulgarities.

Of course, I then blocked this person and took appropriate action and they sent me the nastiest of emails. The victims of his harassment sent me screenshots of the crazy stuff he sent and like unhinged people do; the predator operated from a place of some type of misplaced moral superiority pretending like they did nothing wrong.

I think when it comes to dealing with trolls, the first step is realising how troubled these people are. That reduces the emotional impact it has on us. It can be natural to assume trolls are ‘normal’ people and I can tell you from experience that is not the case.

Secondly, it comes down to the sense of our own self-esteem and what we think of ourselves. One with high self-esteem generally reacts quite lightly to trolling, but one of course with the opposite can find a negative jab online stirs up a painful tornado of pain struck emotions.

My advice and thinking? Beyond trolling, work on your own self-esteem. That makes trolling much easier to deal with. You may go do some personal development.

Remind yourself too of how unhinged, sad and unstable trolls are.

Then you DOUBLE DOWN! Post more content. Trigger the trolls more and let their criticism embolden your resolve and make you post harder.

This happened to one of my friends and I told her that. Go harder and do more! Trigger them and smile.

Love your work, thank you for the read and perhaps we should thank the trolls? Their reactions mean we are on the right track.