The British Consul-General and the British Chamber, changed my life on many levels!
I am still spinning and my life has forever changed for the better.
The breakthroughs my mind has gone through are still ‘processing’ big time as I write this.
You may have read some of my blogs talking to my love and passion for my relatively recent presence at the Australian British Chamber of Commerce.
This all still a new experience for me in terms of becoming part of a very affluent, influential wealthy and powerful community. It all started with an invite from my British friend Mark Kyte, a Whiskey Tasting Night and taking the plunge.
About 8 months later they had an evening at the British Consul-General’s Government Residence (last night). I have to tell you that when I first saw the invite I did feel out of my depth.
To give you some context in my life; although many see me as successful today it has come through some rough times. Being a military veteran, spending weeks in hospital, winding up homeless for some months and being quite impoverished when I came to Sydney – for me actually being considered ‘successful’ let alone visiting exclusive events like this is still strange for me at many levels.
What made this experience even more interesting was the fantastic time I had. (*With protecting identities*), I clicked with these amazing people and we all had a collective D&M (deep & meaningful). I met this high end professional by the name of *Ivanka*. Intelligent, brilliant, wealthy and successful; we discussed ‘Impostor Syndrome’.
If you haven’t heard this term; it’s basically how we can deep down think “we are hopeless” and don’t deserve to succeed. It’s a key confidence issue and the problem is that as we go higher in life, it can set us up to self-sabotage. Mine has been with money, Ivanka’s was with relationships. That is; because we don’t believe in ourselves we don’t accept or keep opportunities that come our way (be it partners, money, friends).
For me has been money, for Ivanka it is relationships and it got me thinking at a far deeper level.
In terms of the evening; being able to be accepted by the British Chamber, having the success I do today in my business and all my friends has really helped me knock the ‘impostor syndrome’ over once and for all. What is interesting about this low level of confidence is that many highly successful people have it. In a way it becomes that deep dark part of ourselves we like to hide away (the irony is that it’s very common the more we discuss it the weaker it gets).
My advice and thinking? Keep making yourself uncomfortable. If you are like me and afraid of success; keep pushing yourself into crazy new places. If you are fearful of dates / relationships, go on more. If you are afraid of being attractive / getting attention, hit the gym 4 x times a week and cut the carbs.
Basically this – push against your own limitations and keep stretching yourself. The more you do it, the weaker your ‘impostor syndrome’ shall get, the more successful you shall become, your bank account will love you and happiness tends to find it’s way into your heart.
Thank you British Chamber, thank you Consul-General, thank you friends and of course thank you *Ivanka* – you rock and love your work (best of luck to you as well!).
P.S. Please excuse the lack of photos of the event as well – none were taken being a private Government Residence (and for security reasons).
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