Category Coming back from mistakes

Tearing while Writing this Article about Starting my Life Again

The Awesome Greg Mason and Myself Edward Zia - Early Days of 4Networking Sydney CBD! Glad we won in the end!

The Awesome Greg Mason and Myself Edward Zia – Early Days of 4Networking Sydney CBD! Glad we won in the end!

Hi Everyone! I like to think I am a real man, but in some parts of writing this article I was crying like a baby ūüôā

This article I have written for the upcoming 4Networking Australia Leadership Guide and I thought, wouldn’t it be perfect in my blog too? Hope you like it and thanks for reading this:

‚ÄúBeing part of the 4Networking Leadership Team helped me get my business off the ground and start my life again with support, friends and financial success‚ÄĚ.

In being an huge success in my 20’s as a Corporate Marketing Manager and feeling somewhat indestructible, my world changed forever the day my Fiancée left me due to my own failings to really appreciate her.  Over a period of a few months (and feeding into the Global-Financial Crisis at the time) my life fell apart and I went from being able to buy whatever I want to being unemployed for almost 12 months.

As we both have shared Social Groups, many of my ‚Äúfriends‚ÄĚ moved on at the time as well and I ended up losing all of my money, was $20K into Credit Card Debt and lost my friends and support network.¬† My life ended as I knew it and I endured some dark years. ¬†It was filled with isolation, regret and remorse for a future I almost had but will now never see.

I started to humble up and came to Sydney to start my life all over again.¬† Things weren‚Äôt quite working out the way I hoped, but eventually I came across this ‚ÄúBritish 4Networking Group‚ÄĚ.¬† After meeting this quirky man by the name of Grant Dempsey, he inspired me in his vision to create 4Networking Australia as a Business Community.¬† I barely even knew him and already I felt there was something unique about 4Networking and him personally.

I came to one of the first meetings of 4Networking in Liverpool and I was immediately mentally part of it.  For the first time in a long time, I could see myself leading a normal life again and within one meeting I was Operations Assistant.  This involved collecting money and helping run things. It was a great way to rebuild my confidence and Self-Esteem surrounded by truly kind people on my side.  I also felt for once in a long time I was actually helping people and needed.

I started speaking before the group and before I knew it ‚Äď I was inviting people to 4Networking and even Group Leading a few months later.¬† As my skills, confidence and renewed faith in life returned I started picking up clients from within the Network and started gaining a steady stream of referrals.¬† For the first time in years I felt like I was contributing to society yet again and I had a vision to build myself a brand new life.

As the early 4Networking was emerging I helped market lots of groups, invited everyone and then became Area Leader looking after about 4 Groups.  Then I even helped start new groups and within 2 years I had the lucky honour of being Regional Leader for Metro Sydney.  The roles gave me the confidence and exposure I needed and before long, I realized I built a 6-Figure Consulting Business from Scratch with 4Networking.

Would I ever change anything looking back? No way.  My quality of life is the best it has ever been for me in terms of friends, support and finances and based on my journey I now have the daily opportunity to help people who were just like me and just need someone and a group of people believing in them.

4Networking was a lot more than money to me, it was my second chance in life and I sometimes pinch myself to make sure it’s not a dream.  These days I work with fantastic clients and tell my story publicly as much as I can and am doing my best to get across all the groups.

I hope to see you soon and if we don’t get to meet anytime soon, feel free to add me on Facebook, LinkedIn and say hello!

Failure and Starting my Life Again!

I deserved this one for sure - Teach me for being Lazy!

I deserved this one for sure – Teach me for being Lazy!

I died once and it hurt. ¬†I can promise you I won’t do that again.

26 years old and on a 6-Figure Income as a high-end Senior Marketing Manager.  I had it all, the money, the reputation, managed a team of 14 people, $8,000,000+ Marketing Budget.  Tons of friends and well known.

29 years old and on $15 / Hour working 25 hours per week selling Health Products in a shopping mall.  I had nothing, was heavily in credit card debt and my personal life was in ruins.  No friends and laughed at.

35 years old and on a 6-Figure Income and Life far better than anything prior.  I have it all, friends, fulfilment and the daily opportunity to really help people that need it.  Tons of friends who actually care about me.

When I reflect back on this and why it all happened ‚Äď one thing really resonates with me with the benefit of hindsight.¬† Even though I did some long hours in my 20‚Äôs, I really got lazy, took my success for granted and during the GFC (and after making a stack of bad choices myself) I successfully destroyed my life over a period of a few months.¬† I was very lucky to retain my health, but money, friends, families, investments ‚Äď all gone and I came to Sydney to start my life again.

The thing that got to me was by the age of 30, I had been retrenched 3 x times and pre-GFC my Corporate Skills were worth $150 ‚Äď 200K / Year.¬† Post-GFC I was lucky to get $70K / Year ‚Äď assuming one could find a job.¬† This was personally devastating and eventually I thought ‚ÄúI must become a Marketing Consultant‚ÄĚ and found that Small Businesses were actually valuing my skills.

The problem was, after years of failure I was mentally drained and I had no friends or anyone supporting me.¬† During one long night, I was searching for ‚ÄúBusiness Networking‚ÄĚ and came across this concept coming to Australia called ‚Äú4Networking‚ÄĚ.¬† I sent an email to the address and within 10 minutes I got a response.¬† I then replied and a man by the name of Grant Dempsey kept immediately replying.¬† We spoke on the phone that night and the rest was history.

It certainly wasn‚Äôt easy, I started with 0 clients and almost no money and I started off as an Operations Assistant.¬† I did have a weak job to help pay the bills (barely) and I kept going and going.¬† I remember about 4 months into the network, I got my first paying client (Yes) then at about 6 ‚Äď 12 months it all took off for me.

When I reflect back on my experience with 4Networking I shudder to think about my alternate life if I didn’t discover it.¬† As far as I am concerned, I owe my life to 4N in that it was really the only time in my life where as a ‚ÄúLittle Guy‚ÄĚ I felt like there was a collaborative and caring group of people supporting me.¬† On a funny note, I almost see my time in 4N as ‚ÄúRedemption‚ÄĚ for the slackness of my previous years.

Of course it‚Äôs all about making money and success which 4Networking helped me achieve, however to me it‚Äôs more about that.¬† It‚Äôs about true fellowship and having the right minded group of objective Entrepreneurs supporting you.¬† To me, without that ‚Äď there is no way I would be in the position I am today.

So if you are reading this and part of my journey ‚Äď thank you, if you haven‚Äôt joined 4Networking yet ‚Äď then you better get along! An awesome community for awesome people.

Thank you again and if you have been down my path, keep looking up I say with positive hard work.  Appreciate you taking the time to read this and have a great one from Edward Zia (P.S. Check out the Awesome Marketing Vault too!).

From Ashes Part II: My Second Chance and My 4Networking Fellowship!

Rhonda cutting her Birthday Cake at AMF Bowling in Villawood (Sydney Australia).  Ciaran Keating holding the cake and one Humble Persian Man looking on!

Rhonda cutting her Birthday Cake at AMF Bowling in Villawood (Sydney Australia). Ciaran Keating holding the cake
and one Humble Persian Man looking on!

It’s very positive me writing this post in the respect that my life has really sucked for many years. It was all completely my fault and I blame no one, but the Persian Man in the mirror.

In this post, I wish to dedicate it to two very special women that I know – Lisa Aifantis and Rhonda Osman. They run this cool business Premium Call Centre Solutions¬†and we have been “War Buddies” for I think about 7 years now.

A very long time ago during my Corporate Workplace days (where I met them), I met these two awesome business women. ¬†At the time I met them, they were women fighting for their business lives and I was very lucky to be able to protect them from unfairly losing a big contract and being the victim of unfair criticism and attacks from one of their clients. ¬†I always took the “Logical Side” (whether it suited me politically or not) and saving them was one of the best moves of my life.

About 4 years later, they came to return the aid.  I had a big knock in my business at the start when I was still fairly weak (which almost was the death of me) and they gave me such amazing emotional support then to get back on me feet.

Today I was very humbled by a surprise Birthday Party with them and my new friends from 4Networking.  It moved me in ways beyond words and this is actually the best birthday party I have had in my life Рperiod.  I am very lucky to have this fellowship around me and it got me reflecting on my failures in the past and those lost years.

Going back and telling the story, if you read some of my earlier posts or “From Ashes Part I” – you will notice that I pretty much destroyed my life due to my own incompetence. ¬†I was lucky to retain my health, but I lost everything else – life savings, friends, place to live, long-term relationship and I destroyed my career.

In reflecting back on myself and what happened, my big failure was that I wasn’t thinking ahead. ¬†I was just going from week to week, thinking I was “Just Awesome”. Even though I donated to charity and was a helpful figure, I became a “Fat Piggy” thinking I was invulnerable.

During the GFC and after a round of bad decisions I ruined my life completely (I was about 28 at the time, now turning 35) and my last few years has been catching up again. ¬†I have finally proven (to myself at least) that as long as you don’t lose your health, you can rebuild yourself Financially and get ahead again. ¬†I am now superior in strength (business wise, friendships and financially) to what I have ever been and I have my “New Friends” to thank for that.

Lisa, Rhonda and many friends from 4Networking threw a Surprise Party for Rhonda & I (her birthday is a few days after mine) and it was the best party of my life. ¬†Very tear jerking even writing this and if I look back, I have had many Birthday’s on my own.

And this is where the sob story I tell is really aimed at my own failures, I used to spend time with the wrong people, I would sabotage my previous relationships and I would often reach birthday’s alone trying to hold in my sadness and either drinking or doing something to limit the pain I would feel in that moment. My own lack of confidence causing me to hang out with the wrong people let me to this loneliness and I deserved every bit of punishment I got.

Today I am a very lucky man, I became part of 4Networking and after screwing up the first part of my life I feel that it gave me a second shot. ¬†My early 20’s were great and I had some great church friends, but my 25-30’s was a disaster life wise. ¬†My life was off track and I was in a place of emotional isolation and my own pride / ego was killing me off day by day.

When I joined 4Networking it was for commercial means (starting my business) and overtime it was the “Fellowship” that changed my life. ¬†I came to admit that “I was wrong” (which for a Persian Guy is not an easy thing to do) and I admitted that I couldn’t win the game of life on my own (which was my problem) and accepted the Fellowship of great people like Lisa & Rhonda and many more.

Today was a revelation for me and one of the best days of my life to date – true friends supporting me and feeling like I am part of something far larger than myself.

As for me, I am a very lucky man. ¬†Jesus Christ and the God’s certainly are smiling upon me and I am making sure I give back to everyone and working hard to support 4Networking which gave me a second chance in life.

So yes! This is very hard for me expressing my views, so will keep up with some new articles as time passes.

From Edward Zia РMarketing Mentor and Awesome Marketing Vault Creator РI appreciate you taking the time to read this.  Hope you get maximum results out there!

Looking Ahead beyond Trauma and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder!

Edward Zia (myself) and the fine Business Woman Rochelle Prater - with our "Selfie" taken :)

Edward Zia (myself) and the fine Business Woman Rochelle Prater – with our “Selfie” taken

I would like to dedicate this article to one intelligent and progressive business woman by the name of Rochelle Prater.

I also want to thank a top friend of mine Jenny Kuo for helping me out yesterday from my old conditions of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).  I had a very long day yesterday and a few events occurred in a row that triggered an a proper attack that lasted for about 45 minutes and impacted me for the rest of the day.

Today I caught up with Rochelle and we were working on a few projects and what pricked up my ears and really took my respect / admiration of her is how she has handled adversity in her life.  We all have had challenges of some way or another and one thing I really was touched by was her view on challenges and stuff that has happened to her.  Compartively, she has survived much more hostile conditions than myself but what amazed me was her top attitude and understanding of it, trying to remember word for word she said:

– “I wouldn’t take back even one experience. ¬†It’s all part of life and made me what I am today”.

This got me thinking on a range of levels including the way I look at things. ¬†I still carry the weight on my shoulders of really stuffing up my life some years ago (I really did) and even though I have had some recent massive victories and retaken what I am lost and more – I still can’t help feeling the burden of previous failures.

I think combined with some of the violence I have witnesses and being in a series of life threatening situations (including being choked and almost dying as a child) it has left an interesting mark on me. ¬†Combined with early 20’s in the Army, having one awesome mother a Police Inspector – even though I am a Marketing Guy, I often get¬†mistakes¬†for a cop when I go into places.

Jenny Kuo and Rochelle are two women that have made a great case for me to really forget my past and move on and accept what has happened in not so much of a stupid / life coach “Spirituality¬†/ Abundance” lame manner, but in a pragmatic and logical manner.

So this article is a big thank you to Jenny Kuo for helping me through some times and of course Rochelle Prater from today.  Wish I met both you ladies a long time ago and learned from your amazing strengths.

Thank you from Edward Zia for taking the time to read this and hope you are winning out there in the big wide world!

Making Sure we Survive in Business and don’t go Back to Work!

The dedication goes to Phillip Raish (Left).  A good friend who started the same time I did!

The dedication goes to Phillip Raish (Left). A good friend who started the same time I did!

I don’t know about you, but one of my big fears in business is say losing it all and having to go back to bloody work in the Corporate Life. In a way (to a point), I think it’s a very good fear to have in that it keeps us honest and really focused on the ball.

For this article, I would like to dedicate it to my Client / Supplier turned friend over time Phillip Raish from Wild FX. He used to be a guy with a Small Printshop and now he is a guy with a bigger Promotional, Signage and Printing Company! He is hiring more staff and is a great example of what is possible.

When I was working with him today, I was reflecting back to our older times. We started business roughly about the same time ago (3 – 4 years) and now our hard work has paid off and we are enjoying our lives and out of “Survival Stage”. We are both dealing with the positive challenges of up-scaling (which is another discussion for another time) and reflecting on the past.

One thing I remember seeing well expressed in one of the 4Networking Manuals (4Networking is this business community we are all part of) is the 4 phases of business growth. I am running off my rusty memory of 8+ months and my own interpretation of each so here goes:

– Survival: Making it month to month in one piece.
– Acceptance: Knowing you don’t have to go back to work and getting used to the new life.
– Growing & Contributing: Achieving your business goals and helping others.
– Actualization: Making it and satisfaction from your achievements!

I think I am in between Acceptance and Growing stage right now as per my friend Phillip. In our reflection on past times in having no money, not being able to afford what we want, upset family members and stress all around – I thought back on the Survival stage and how horrible it was for me, Phillip and many people I work with.

In particular the emotions suck and for me involved:

– Feeling completely worthless.
– Being fearful at the Supermarket before swiping my card for food.
– Having a partner (understandably) upset with me all the time.
– Waking up in the middle of the night in near terror.
– Addictions (in my case food), running rampant!

I¬†don’t want to ever do this again and the thing that I gain from this experience on Survival and what I would say to people doing it like I did includes:

– Work hard but go easy on yourself.
– Watch your addictions, and
– Accept that it’s extremely hard but each day it get’s slightly easier!

To me that’s it, start-up sucks but each day it gets a bit easier! And of course, the challenge although is hard, it is so damn rewarding and fulfilling!

So if survival is your challenge, you aren’t alone! Whether we have met or not, I just wanted to say I feel for you and hang in there! Work hard, but don’t be hard on yourself! ¬†Thanks for reading this and very appreciated!

Self-Respect: The Two Way Street and Loving the Reflection!

Self-Respect - My life never worked till I started developing it!

Self-Respect – My life never worked till I started developing it!

I am very grateful to have yet another amazing day in my marketing consulting business.  This post I would like to dedicate to my awesome CPA with whom I met with today.  I am also thinking of the hard-working and amazing Jenny Kuo (from Sociable Space) as I write this article.

Like many of my clients (who are about 70% awesome female business owners), my CPA fits the perfect profile of many of them.  Kind, good natured, technically brilliant, hard-working and of course not realizing how awesome they actually are!

Relating to this experience myself, I have spent many years of my life with little respect for myself.  This has led to a disastrous life for myself in a range of areas.  One big one was how badly my career progressed.  As I never had respect for myself, I would always be attracted to employers that merely gave me respect matching my own internal respect.  This resulted in earning far less than what I deserve, working incredible hours, generating results without any long-term benefit to myself and having nothing to show for years of hard work when I was moved on in all instances.

Many corporate rebels like myself are dealing with fallout from years of ill treatment in corporate environments. ¬†I used to think it was “only ee” (which is no doubt their intent) only to realize there are many which had it worse than me a range of ways. ¬†I have heard amazing stories and personally observed a range of things covering:

– Sexual harassment (e.g “sex for job security”).

– Forced to commit crimes to keep your job (happened to me once, and I said no and called their bluff).

– Standard corporate bullying.

– Theft by withholding entitlements and commissions.

– Women being penalized.

All very sad stuff and after speaking with my CPA¬†and reflecting on my past, it’s all about respect. ¬†That is, many corporates and even people in our own lives treat us with such disrespect and contempt, we must be careful not to let it change our own view of “self-respect”. ¬†The big mistake I made was not keeping up my self respect and them getting to me and their lies rubbing off on me.

When I went into my own business and escaped that abuse, the thing that I found strange (as many others do) is that it can take some time to detox from what happens to us.  In my case, even years later:

– I still have nightmares.

– I still act with poor confidence at times.

– I still don’t treat myself fairly.

– But I am getting over it!

To my poor friends and clients alike – if for whatever reason you don’t have good self-respect, I encourage you to really work on this part of your life. ¬†As my self-respect has increased, my income and results have increased! So it’s important and totally critical!

There are no secret answers, but I can say one great technique I learnt in the church and did myself:

– Every day Write 10 x Things (every morning) about why you can realistically self-respect yourself!

It can be little things! Eating health, loving your children, helping someone Рor even from your past, reflecting on big things and missions you have won.  I did this exercise mentally and it worked, but many need to write it down.  Reflect on why you are awesome!

So if you are down on yourself and letting yourself get walked over, you have little self-respect, so please work on it! Don’t stuff up your life like I did, and if you have – just improve and don’t punish yourself!

From Ashes Part 1: Stuffing up my life and losing everything!

From Ashes: Never Stop Smiling!

From Ashes: Never Stop Smiling!

I have been working with some amazing people lately and this blog post I want to dedicate to two people, one of my old friends Theepan (who is now a big manager at the RTA “Sydney’s Road and Transit Authority) and this great man I met by the name of Luke Goodman – a rising mortgage broker based in Sydney. ¬†I also want to mention my mum! Tiani who was there for me, when the cards were down too! I feel that these people are kindred spirits and can relate for sure!

I am 34 years old (turning 35 in June) and when I was about 28, I totally stuffed up my life and lost everything.  I was lucky not to be in any legal trouble and I kept my health which is good Рbut from a social, financial and career perspective I lost everything that I previous took for granted.

Like many it was around GFC time and as much as I want to blame it on an external event, it was my fault. ¬†I grew up in the “milk and honey” days were the economies were growing and anyone could make money. ¬†It gave me that “wealth creation / seminar / happy clappy / retarded” mindset that I can make millions in moments and I was spending money left right and centre on luxuries, bogus get rich quick schemes and luxuries that a man in his 20’s should not be buying.

Even though I was a Christian, ¬†quit drinking (which I had some massive issues with) and I donated to the poor – I won’t lie to you, I had a sense of arrogance and would frequently put myself above others all the time.

Then I wasted tens of thousands on failed business ventures, stuffed up some relationships with fantastic women (one a long term one), quit my job only to move interstate and lose my own social network. ¬†The GFC was at it’s peak then and I lacked necessary business skills then and I could get work!

I went from $120,000+ salaries to nothing – eventually found a job selling health goods in shopping malls for a measley $15 / hour.

If you know a bit about psychology, some of the pillars talk about “death” or “emotional ending”. ¬†What this means is that throughout our lives, events (be it positive or negative) hit us which ends the person we are. ¬†Positive examples can be having a child, a big promotion, getting a license or even making a big decision.

Negative examples are probably more common, divorce, death, injuries, sickness and the most common cliche is finding out as a child that “Santa Claus isn’t real”.

It’s basically an experience where your old self is gone and in the negative case, “from ashes” the new shall rise.

My own arrogance, stupidity and laziness got the better of me which led to my destruction. I got in a big trap of depression for a few months and to get me through the hard times, I actually turned to the Bible! Ha, what a religious nut I am Рbut it helped me survive and I have nothing but JC to thank for that one!

What losing everything and not being able to get that old job again like the old days taught me was to get over myself and get back on my feet. ¬†I got some work that was rubbish compared to my 20’s peak which tied me over, but what I started appreciating was good friends.

The big thing I realized is the whole “from ashes” theme – I took me a while to accept it, but using a I suppose “city / nuclear war” analogy, my whole “planet” as I knew it was destroyed. ¬†I had suffered many old times blues, but after a while (maybe about 3 – 6 months) I accepted that the old times were gone.

Continuing the nuclear war analogy, it was about pulling together what I had left and working out what to do next. ¬†At the time and looking back, I coined it the “from ashes” part of my life. ¬†To be frank, it was hard looking back there but as I am now “successful” business wise – I can reopen that book and not shudder at the horrors written on the pages.

Getting back on track was about me accepting my old planet was destroyed and with what I had left Рrebuilding something new.  What I found amazing from this experience was this:

– Without destroying the old, I could not rebuild the new!

That is, my old-self HAD TO DIE. My old self wasn’t allowing me to experience the success I am lucky to enjoy now. ¬†I am going to write much more about “from ashes” in coming posts, but I just wanted to say if you have stuffed up your life like I have – or you are in the process of it, please go easy on yourself! You stuffed it up and you can un-stuff it up! Just have faith, work ahead and pull together what you have left and figure out how to get back on track.

I am working with some amazing clients and people who are divorcing or have divorced and many are an example the human spirit. In some cases, they have no money, their children are taken, and they pay child support to a scenario where the other half is loaded! ¬†The reverse is true, they are getting child support, but say the ex-husband is terrorizing them as much as “legally” possible.

I hope I never do experience that type of pain, but I can relate – they are truly great people who are really coming “from Aahes” and trying to re-take / re-build what they lost.

If you are doing it tough – I can relate! If I know you and we have spoken great, but if we don’t know each other and may never meet I just want to say this to you:

– I care for you whoever you are! I hope you are okay and please have faith and hang on! Life get’s tough sometimes, but you are tougher!

Positive Thinking: Making you feel Negative?

I don't have any problems - I just need to be more Positive!

I don’t have any problems – I just need to be more Positive!

This “Positive Thinking Fad” which really hit it’s peak in the 1990’s (but is still hanging around today) – is not just driving me nuts, has also really hurt some of my clients and the people I work with.

If you aren’t familiar with “Positive Thinking” – taken in it’s extreme form it’s basically “Snuffing” out “Negative Thoughts” with tons of “Positive Thoughts”. ¬†As you can probably figure out, Negative Thoughts can often exist for very good reasons, so this can get you into trouble.

One con is where I have seen “Positive Thinkers” who feel bad, because they are doing something they shouldn’t be doing (i.e. not working hard enough, over-eating, smoking, addictions etc) snuff out their Negative Thoughts. ¬†Those Negative Thoughts are actually very important! If you are over-eating your way to an early diabetes ridden death, then you should feel bad!

This type of delusional behaviour combined with the “Fad” of:

– Oh No! I have a “Negative Thought”!

– It’s bad, quick say something positive!

This can be extremely dangerous in that we can “Judge” ourselves badly for having a “Negative Thought”. Now don’t get me wrong, I am not saying we should go around the place and be negative – we need an intelligent balance of both! So why do the extremist “Positive Thinkers” generally have an agenda?

Here are some theories:

– Come to our seminar to get involved in our “Positive Thinking Cult” where we help lighten your wallet / purse.

– Don’t “Be Negative” just buy our expensive product and give us a go.

– If you want to be “Positive Like Me” (Douche Bag Hypster on Stage) then buy my products.

Just remember it’s a jungle out there! Don’t judge yourself for having “Negative Thoughts” – more often that not, it’s your sub-conscious mind prompting you to fix something up!

Positive Thinking Cults & Your Hip Pocket / Purse

Only the Pure of Heart (And Full of Money) can join our Elite Group!

Only the Pure of Heart (And Full of Money) can join our Elite Group!

There are a good stack of Cults, Fanatics and of course – good old Rip Off Merchants out there that totally love and get “Good Mileage” out of Positive Thinking.

Without naming any organizations in particular (in knowing how litigious these organizations can be), throughout my life I have been caught up in a organizations that are actually “Cults”.¬†However, as they know they are “Cults” they really work hard in their marketing and the pitches used by their “Cultists” to make out that:

– We aren’t a cult any more than your local Footy Team or Corporate Workplace.
– We had some bad history, but that was years ago – we have changed (yes, sure you have).
– We are a “Success Cult” – therefore better than society.
– Society is “Bad” & “Evil” and because you are with us, you are “Better” than everyone else.

And of course, if people aren’t willing to join the “Cult”, they are either:

– Not Very intelligent.
– “Losers” (I have heard this used recently).
– Aren’t serious about their lives.
– Just need more convincing.

This is extremely scary! Not just MLM’s but also other organizations use this “Cultist” mentality to really brainwash their followers.

This is where you have to be very careful in Life & Business – you are walking along, minding your own business then someone approaches with a “Great Business Idea” or a “Radical Way of Improving your Life”. ¬†I bet this has already happenned to you, but if it hasn’t my god watch out! Chances are they are trying to enlist you in their own cult!

In my early 20’s (very briefly) I got sucked into a very dangerous “Positive Thinking” type of cult that was all supposedly to improve peoples lives. It costed a lot of money and the cults where these “Brain Washing” sessions where people where forced (often against their will) to break-through problems in their lives.¬†In fact, where it got very dangerous was that everyone had to “Bring Guests” along – because you “Love them” and care for them.¬†They even framed it as “The people who bring more people, are more generous and caring people!”

I got out of this cult pretty quickly, but what was scary (in finding out afterwards) was that this organization has had a bad history of really hurting people and causing them to screw up their lives. Of course, they take “No Responsibility” for this, get you to sign away your rights – and even go as far to say that people who get a Negative Outcome from what they are doing – are actually “Not Doing it Correctly”.

Be it you got your own business or starting out – I really encourage you to be careful in this day and age! There are lots of desperate people out there (even with good intentions) that are sucked into these things and may try the stuff on you.

Watch yourself – it’s a Jungle out there! A Jungle full of “Positive Thinking Cults!”

Success: Turning Up 1 Time More after Everyone Quits!

Learning to Overcome Rejection - Oww, it hurt's about here?

Learning to Overcome Rejection – Oww, it hurt’s about here?

To me this is a very profound concept. In not just my own Small Business, but when I used to Job Hunt – I really learnt how hard the “Real World” can actually be. ¬†My great Mother (God Bless Her) is an amazing woman and Ex-Inspector in the Police Force. She was beaten up for years by an Abusive Father (alcoholic you name it!), fought with the UN (in Peace Keeping Operators and had fought in real gun battles) and seen lots of people die in front of her.

This realism gave her a great grounding in the respect that she used to tell me “The World is a Tough Place”, “It’s Hard” and¬†Success if often turning up 1 time more after everyone else quits.

If anything, I have learnt that I should have listened to my mother more often! But oh no, her comes all the “Positive Thinkers” out of the woodwork. They come along, hype you up and make out with their tools or a “Simple, Dog-Easy to Follow Strategy” you can make $1,000,000 / Min without leaving the house.

You and I are intelligent people. You and I know that they are probably one of two things:

– Lying to rip you off, show off, or take advantage of you.
– Have had Mummy & Daddy pay for everything and have had a sheltered life.

In my experience, it’s usually about 60% / 40% – or a combination of both. The reality is that the “Pain / Avoidance of Rejection” kills many Small Businesses and prevents many of us getting the Promotions in our Careers that we deserve.

My mum always said you got to take the pain. You got to stick at it. You got to survive the longest. It’s such a true lesson, the people who often succeed aren’t the “Smarter” ones or the “Better Looking” ones, it’s the ones that stick at it beyond everyone else that quits.

So why do we ignore mums advice? Because it’s painful!¬†In our own business, we get so much rejection. And it’s tough! But once you get over the fact that it’s “Tough” and enjoy the process, the “Law of Averages” kick in.

If you only meet 1 person a day and get rejected – it’s soul crushing! If you meet 10 people a day and get rejected 8 times – it’s great! (Because you have 2 wins!).¬†I know it can suck at times. I know it can feel really bad when you get rejected.

But when you avoid rejection, you are avoiding the possibility of growing your business, getting that dream job – or even finding a partner!¬†My advice to you – EMBRACE REJECTION! It’s not easy at the start, but I can promise you – each day you do it, it becomes that bit easier.¬†And to all you lying “Positive Thinkers” out there – grow up! Treat others and yourself with honesty and respect!

Boy – I wish I learnt this 20 years ago!

Why do “Positive Thinkers” Lie To Us About Tough Times?

“Positive Thinkers” Lie to Us – It is really Tough at Times! No matter the Spin!

“Positive Thinkers” lie all the time about tough times.

These people are really unethical and are just trying to con you out of your hard-earned money.

Besides my Formal Studies, I have read lots of books from the so-called “Gurus” on how to “Be Rich”, “Live Your Life” and “Stay Positive”.

One Con, which I picked up is that in all the books you pick off the shelf, they always try and make out how easy it is to make $1,000,000 and achieve the life of your dreams (usually in a time-frame measured by months and not years!).

It’s just and me talking here now – let’s have a frank conversation. ¬†No matter what front we put on, we always have tough times.

We can have problems with our Partners, Children, Money, Business, Work, Sickness and all that. ¬†According to these “Positive Thinkers”:

– You can snap yourself out of it immediately.

– It’s just the “Story you are telling yourself”.

– You need to just “Be Positive”.

Oh great, so my wife has left me – my kids are sick, I am having trouble at work – so if I just tell myself to be happy, I just will be?

Well, that is what many so called “Positive Thinkers” have told me face to face and in their books. ¬†Here is the funny con of it all, with some of these Positive Thinkers I have witnessed first hand and had reported to me second-hand – is that they get as “Negative” as we do, have “Problems” just like us and can’t just “Change” their emotions like they make out they do.

So it’s fair to say that in tough times, just “Being Positive” is a lie. ¬†You have to do a lot more than that, i.e. be patient, be honest, make changes, give yourself time etc.

So why are these “Positive Thinkers” and Authors lying to us? Here are a few questions regarding them:

– Are they lying to us to sell more of their books?

– Are they trying to create a front they are “Larger than Life” so we get conned by them?

– Do they pretend what they know is so powerful, you will go to their seminars and fork out for them?

Come On! We aren’t stupid. ¬†As much as they like to think we are stupid, we are actually not and can question what these people are doing. ¬†“Positive Thinking” just makes them rich at our expense!¬†You and I both know what is really going on here – “Positive Thinkers” lying to us so they can take your money and buy themselves nice cars, holidays and stuff.

Tough Times happen, and they suck! However that is life and it can be tough and can take time to get through things. When you are feeling down, please watch your wallet / purse! That is when these con artists are at their peak!

Why are “Positive Thinkers” Always Trying to Take My Cash?

At least this Cowgirl / Hustler is Honest About it!

“Positive Thinkers” have really annoyed me lately. I have been¬†harassed¬†by a bunch of “Positive People” from Multi-Level-Marketing Schemes (“MLM”).

They are so “Positive” and are all making “So Much Money” – hence, they tried to put lots of pressure for me to join their schemes. ¬†I have noted something incredibly interesting lately.

I know lots of multi-millionaires¬†who are the “Real Thing”.

Yet, compared to these other Con-Artists:

– Absolutely NONE of them are “Positive Thinkers”.

– They are all HARDCORE “Realists”.

– When I have told them about “Positive Thinking” they sneer / laugh at me.

So this is very interesting – I know so many “Poor” people who go around, being “Positive” pretending they are doing very well. ¬†When I suggest to them (even politely) they should look at both side of the equations and be pragmatic, they usually defend their beliefs quite strong and label me as “Negative” or not really understanding “Positive Thinking”.

Now don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that we all need to be in fear of Nuclear Annihilation all the time and incredibly negative. ¬†I am just saying that lately, lots of people who are so positive (near delusional) have really showed me the limitations of the thinking.

One extremely unethnical practice I have noted are some of the Multi-Level Marketing schemes out there. ¬†Now don’t get me wrong, I think some are extremely good and I am not attacking the industry (i.e. I have had very good experiences with NutriMetics & Herbal-Life) – I am talking about some shonky players that I bet you know about! ¬†In actual fact, I think MLM is a good type of model. ¬†But like anything – it can be misused. ¬†My favourite biblical example is in the use of a knife, i.e:

– You can use it to cut bread.

– You can use it to cut someone up.

One thing that I think is so unethical (which in my opinion should be made illegal) is:

– They Get in “Poor People”.

– Sell them “Financial Freedom”, “Fluffy Clouds” and “BS”.

– They attack our Western Society, Our Way of Life and tell you how bad it is.

– Con them into handing over what little Money & Time they have.

– Manipulate them into believing that in 1 – 3 years, they will be millionaires.

One poor person I recently Coached has been completely sucked into these schemes. ¬†They are so “Positive” and because they “Believe” (or more likely have been Conned by their MLM company) in what they are doing – they basically have put their career and life on hold to chase the fluffy clouds. ¬†Don’t you love “Positive Thinking”? Yes – thank you for helping to destroy this person’s life.

That is really bad an unfair! This MLM company doesn’t care about the lives of people it’s damaging, doesn’t tell them clearly what they are up for – and even worse, when this person most likely doesn’t achieve their $10,000+ / Month of Passive Cashflow – they will then blame this person for not “Following the System” or being not “Positive Enough”.¬†To go the next level, I have spoken to many Multi-Millionaries I know about this MLM company – and guess what? They all think it’s a complete rip off. ¬†In fact, one used this exact words to me some years ago:

– It’s an evil company that teaches poor people, to prey on poor people.

When I first heard that, I thought I was a bit extreme – and not very nice. ¬†But it’s really true. ¬†There are some mean people in this world, that just love preying off other people.¬†These companies use “Positive Thinking” as a means of getting people to lower their ability to scrutinize so they can rip them off and take over their lives. ¬†This top trader I know Chris Lori has this great saying “Be Careful, it’s a Jungle out there!” – so true and relevant here I think!