Even though I am in the body of a 35 Year Old Persian Man, quite a few people have commented on the fact that I don’t sound 35 at all. Even a few reflected on the fact, that I almost sound like someone in their later years (at least 60 a few have said!).
I think a big reason for this has been the strange life I have had. My teens were quite unusual in a lot of respects and for whatever reason, I have had a very extreme, intense life and have changed careers many times. I think also in almost dying once as well and have to resolve my fear of death in my early 20’s has given me a different perspective compared to many.
2013 has been an amazing year for growth in all areas and I sit here now with gratitude and a sense of happiness. It has been a tough year of many defeats (especially on a personal front) but many great wins which I have completely enjoyed and are quite thankful in.
I will be straight up with you, Christmas Seasons are a tough time for me. For many people actually, Christmas can be a very lonely time of year especially if you buy into the “Nuclear Family” and Christmas ideals. Part of my own personal frustration this year has ironically been on a relationship front. Not just myself, but many of my close friends have been in a similar spot – relationships ending, new ones beginning and I have realized that the relationship side of things is part dedication and part luck for sure. Including myself this got me down at points, however I realized that I was playing the “Victim” and was letting my unfilled expectations get the better of me.
The business is rocking and this year has been a large growth in myself. I always thought by now I would be married with children (that was a great show wasn’t it?) and overtime I have learnt to accept that this is not the case – but not letting it get me down.
I think what was getting me down was the fact I wasn’t appreciating what is working. YES, relationship wise I am single and YES things haven’t worked out in this area despite my best efforts – but YES, I have so amazing friends, YES Great Health, YES great opportunities and successes this year in almost every other area of my life.
So yes, I was being HALF-EMPTY and not HALF-FULL and that was making me sad and unhappy.
The only cure to me for being down in lack / “Half Empty” is gratitude. Appreciating what you have in your life. Sure, I am a bit lonely on the relationship front and Christmas will be a bit of a tough one – but it’s minor in the scheme of things. There is so much better stuff in my life as long as I focus on it.
So if you are feeling a bit blue with some areas of your life not working out – my advice; appreciation what you have, smile and hit them hard in 2014.
Thank you for the read and whenever you read this, I hope you have / had a great 2013 break!