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Hot Girls, Pyramid Schemes and Old Tricks

You are just interested in "Me" right?

At a recent Networking Group I was at, a friend of mine who ran the group got into a lot of trouble!

The Networking Group was basically subverted by a group of people from a “Pyramid Selling” type of organization that primarily uses “Deception” as a way of luring you to Seminar or a Coffee Chat.

Quite a few Multi-Level-Marketing Companies are quite good and very noble (e.g. Send Out Cards, Neways, Herbal Life etc) in my experience – but some of them really like to screw you into a meeting.

I had a very funny one.  Well several, but I had this very tall and attractive “Asian” girl show a lot of interest in me at a Networking Event.  I didn’t pay much attention to it, but then about 8:30PM the next night, she was on the phone to me inviting me to an “Event of Like-Minded” individuals.

Hmm interesting, I instantly asked so what is this about and she replied “It’s not Dodgy”.  After more questioning, I eventually found out it’s “That Scheme” which we all have had lots of trouble with!

On another funny note – at a more recent workshop, this girl I met wanted to meet for an innocent coffee chat.  She strangely wanted me to bring my wife & meet with her husband as well to talk about business goals and such.

Hmm, when I asked she kept dodging, and yep! It turned out to be the “Scheme” we all know about!

So please be really careful out there – although lots of time has passed, you get lots of people using old tricks to try and trick you into seminars and stuff.

Your time is your gold and don’t let any suckers like this push you around!

Boy, I wish I learnt this 20 years ago! 🙂

Action: Feels Bad, But is Good For Us?

We always have to earn the good things in life!

I have seen some absolutely brilliant, talented, intelligent and Good-Natured People fail in their Careers and Business.  I have then seen “Average” people really succeed beyond their wildest dreams and achieve amazing things in their businesses!

There are often quite a few reasons, but what it often comes down too is how much people can handle doing things “They Don’t want to Do”.  I know this sounds obvious – but let’s face it, if we want to achieve something in our lives – then quite often we have to do things that may “Hurt” but is good for us!

One time I was unemployed for a while (before I had a Business).  Any logical person would know that the solution to being unemployed would be to get a job.  However, if any of you have had trouble finding a job – it can take a lot of work and be a very painful process!

NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, YES!

The trick is that the Rejection and Pain is part of the process and it can really hurt, but it is good for us! Even in our own businesses as well – dealing with rejection is a key part of it (be it from banks, to clients to suppliers) and the NO, NO, NO, YES process is very common!

Also as well, even though the “NO’s” may hurt at the start, as we get better – the NO’s lose their intensity and become part of the process.

The other common example is running 10km, it can be completely inconceivable at the start, but after lots of training – it can become fairly standard and even quite enjoyable!

Where extreme Positive Thinking goes wrong is that it tries to get us to “Distort” what reality means so that we don’t actually accept that stuff hurts and we pretend it’s all easy when it’s really not.

The trick is to accept that when we embark on something new, it is going to be unfamiliar and many of the actions will “Feel Bad, But be Good For us”.

However, if we stick to it – it will start to “Feel Good” and hence we get the results we want in a fun manner!

So if you are doing lots of things right now that “Feel Bad”, but are “Good for you” well done! Make sure you avoid those dangerous “Feel Good, but are Bad for You” items! (Awful Vices and Addictions!).

Boy I wish I learnt this 20 years ago!

Negative Thinkers: The Joy of Shooting them in the Face

Time for some Love you Bully / Negative Thinker :)

Time for some Love you Bully / Negative Thinker!

I don’t know about you, but I am sick and tired of Negative Thinkers (and of course, Negative Thinkers who disguise themselves as “Positive Thinkers”).

You may remember from my last post, a certain “Negative Thinker” engaged in Vampirism with my poor neck and only now are the wounds starting to heal.

Like anything upsetting in our lives, sometimes we can get knocked off our chair – but then we gradually put things into perspective and move on.

This has really got me thinking about my whole life and reflecting back on my Wins, Losses and everything in between.  I remember right from the age of 8, right to my nice age of early 30’s now – there have always been “Negative Thinkers”, “Bullies”, or “Vampires” that whenever I have wanted to achieve something noble or big for myself – they are there to slow me down or not make it happen.

Right from bad bosses, to manipulative people, or even deceptive Multi-Level-Marketing people (who have mastered the art of looking “Positive”) – you have to be careful in this day and age to make sure people don’t suck you into their precious “Agendas”.

One thing I have learnt to take pleasure in, is standing up to the bullies and “Negative Thinkers” who don’t really give a rats about you personally – and only care about what resources they can extract from you (i.e. be it sick pleasure form your suffering, taking your money or even your time).

In fact, one thing I notice is that we when stand up for our own-selves and focus on what we want in OUR OWN lives, just like Cock-A-Roaches the Negative Thinkers scatter when the lights go on!

So my big learning, make sure you are living your own life and doing WHAT MATTERS to you!  And if you have some free time over the weekend, go and shoot a bully in the face or something like that.  Do you think I am joking? Maybe (depending on who is asking). Boy I wish I learnt this 20 years ago!

Can Negative Thinkers be Killed by Silver & Wooden Stakes?

Sunlight Helps as well.

Sunlight Helps as well.

Besides Edward Cullen from Twilight, Wesley Snipes from the good old Blade Series – or even a feminine (who loves Katie Holmes) Tom Cruise from Interview with a Vampire – we usually consider Vampires in the Negative.  This is obviously completely fair in the respect that Vampires are predators to humans.

These mythical creatures come along and can not only kill you by simple feeding on your blood, if you contract “Polymorphic Haemophilia” you will no doubt wake up with White Skin, no appetite for Weet-Bix and no doubt an urge to feed on the first passer by.

In an emotional sense, “Negative Thinkers” and people who run around trying to dominate others and “Kill Peoples Dreams” are no different.  Their mere presence makes our skin crawl, when we are in their presence they attack everything that is dear to us – and they generally either want to eliminate us or make us “One of them”.

If you know me well – you know I had a traumatic experience last week that knocked me off my chair for a day or two.  Within the limits of protecting privacy in a public article, a person who I have supported non-stop for years, supported in many ways beyond business – besides always putting me down and stuff, finally stuck their “Teeth” into me to either incapacitate or eliminate me emotionally.

The strange thing about this all is – that when we go through life, we may often have “Vampires” in our midst, but until they reveal themselves or try something that is really beyond the joke – we don’t know who they are.

Now I have identified the “Vampire”, it has been good in that I know to limit my exposure to them and also take them more with a grain of salt than the seriousness I would attribute to them.  In fact, this change in my view of this person made me think things such as:

– How do they treat other people they work with?

– Besides my own opinion of them, what is their honest track record?

– What is their real ethical foundation?

– Do they simply care about people for more than “What they are going to get?”

– And so on.

When I reflect more on this situation, it makes me really understand people like this – in that sometimes no matter what we give – they just like to drink our blood and try and convert us to serve their cause.

You may have people like this in your own life, “Toxic People” or “Vampires” who are almost radioactive – i.e. the more time you spend in their presence to more unhealthier or infected you become.

I would encourage anyone to be really careful about the Negative People they are hanging out with – if you do identify someone make sure you protect yourself from them.

Besides Silver Bullets, Sunlight, a Stake Through the Heart (which apparently works great for Buffy and other Vampire Hunters) the best approach is minimizing your exposure to these people. If you can reasonably avoid them for good even better!

Vampires are dangerous – and remember to keep them in check!

For you “Positive Thinkers” that are offended by this article – go and play a Guitar in the Park or something!

Positive Thinking: And how it has robbed me of Money & Time!

"Positive Thinkers" - The Common Thief?

“Positive Thinkers” – The Common Thief?

I met this complete “Douche Bag” at a Networking Event recently. Well, actually – they more met me.  This person just was so “Positive” and really “Nice” to me.  In fact, this person kept following me around at the Networking Event!

I had this strange conversation with the person in that he was asking me a lot of questions, but when I asked him – I got vague answers such as:

– I help people make money.

– I build teams to help people make money.

– I am a Networker of Businesses.

I kept asking precise questions such as “What do you do?” and this Weasel kept ducking them again and again!

This conversation went on for a few minutes and I decided to move on.

On a funny note, this “Slime Ball” tried their stuff on others – and was actually alienated from other people in the room! (And left very early).

You know and I know, this person was one of those lovely people from some certain Pyramid / Multi-Level-Marketing Shonk that was obviously looking for new people to prey on.

Over the years, I have had very good friends get caught up in these “Shonky” schemes.

The true sad part of all this is that out of at least 10+ people I have seen caught up, NONE of them have actually remained in the schemes or have made money.  The sad truth is that “Positive Thinkers” have used this as a means to try and not only rip people off – but they end up selfishly wasting the time of others.  In my own life, I have encountered many of these “Bottom Feeders” who want nothing other than to rob me of both for their own Selfish Agendas.

Are Rip-Off Merchants New? Of course not – but what I find just fascinating how the are really “Con-Men/Women” and they use the whole “Positive Thinking” / “Abundance” / “Rivers of Cash Flowing” – to get us to overcome our natural intelligence so they can take our hard earned cash. Our Time and Money is precious (especially time as you can’t make it back) – watch out for not only the Rip-Offs, but also how “Positive Thinking” can make you inactive.

Remember, while the intelligent people are working hard, overcoming real issues and making money – while the “Positive Thinkers” are busy imagining stuff that won’t ever happen to them. Be careful out there and stay realistic! It’s a Jungle out there and watch out for lions disguised as “Positive Thinkers!”

Positive Thinkers: Why do they Feel more Pain and Earn Less?

To All "Positive Thinkers" who rip off poor people - I can't wait till you are taken out with the Trash!

To All “Positive Thinkers” who rip off poor people – I can’t wait till you are taken out with the Trash!

If you are like me and had the privilege of working with and knowing wealthy people (i.e. not people on $50K / Year Pretending, but people of say at least $5M+) – you would already know that “Extreme Positive Thinking” really only has a place for scammers, people who don’t like to face facts or those who really use it as their “Religion” to help them sleep well at night.

Now my own Business is healthy and things are actually playing out well for me (Finally Thank God!) – I have really been working with two types of people when you boil it all down.

– Those that are having tough times – but pushing through and making it.

– Those that are having tough times – but are spinning around in circles and failing.

The alarming trend which I have confirmed (yet again) is that the people who are making it – are very similar to the people I know who are worth at least $5M.  Now, I know you may be thinking “Jesus Christ Ed, you stupid Capitalist, is it just about money?”.

My response to that is – of course it isn’t just about money, but come on and work with me here – Money is one of the top drivers of our satisfaction in our society (if you have ever been unemployed like I was for a while and you pay your rent with your Growing Credit Card Debt – trust me! You learn how powerful money is!).

The reality is that when someone is over-engaged in “Positive Thinking” and are saying things like “Oh it’s easy”, “Money flows to me in rivers of abundance”, “Money Grows on Trees like Apples”, “If i just visualize happy things Natalie Portman or Sam Worthington will visit me in my bedroom at 2AM etc” – they really aren’t grasping reality.

Where it get’s worse for these poor people, is that instead of just accepting reality in that “Well it’s tough – but things are going to get easier” and solving them problems and going for it – it encourages one to become inactive.

And here is the big thing, everyone who I know that has an unhealthy obsession with “Positive Thinking” – they aren’t the ones making the big bucks.  They are usually quite Good-Natured, Loving and Kind – but very poor, pressured and frustrated people.

If you were like me once and got sucked into this “Positive Thinking Fad” – it’s okay and don’t panic! Just start undoing the brain-washing all the Positive Thinking Cults have forced on you.  And if you are paying some “Guru” tons of money to help you -please stop it!

Just go down to your local Church, Mosque, Synagogue, Buddist Temple or Liberal Party office and ask for some free advice.  As for you stupid, pathetic worms who are using “Positive Thinking” to rip poor honest people off with your schemes and cults – I sincerely hope you twist your ankle going down the stairs today! You people are Garbage! And I hope you get taken out to the curb!

“Positive Thinkers”: Sucking you dry One Carbon Tax at a Time!

"Positive Thinkers": They love emptying your accounts to buy their Mansions!

“Positive Thinkers”: They love emptying your accounts to buy their Mansions!

Have you noticed that whenever there is something out there that, shall we say – “Has a big problem with it”, “Isn’t based on Reality” or even if is “Very Dodgy”, they always try and avoid the substance and do the whole “Positive Thinking” Hype thing?

The Carbox Tax lately is a real nice take on Positive Thinking.  Agree with it or not, it obviously will hit everyone’s hip pockets and make life even tougher in Australia (with the supposed gain of reducing our emmissions).

Obviously it’s a really hard sell (support it or not), so this is where the “Positive Thinking” tool-bag is pulled off the shelf.  Let’s get in Cate Blanchett, some other Australian actors and forget about all the “Day to Day Obvious” problems and focus on a nice big sunny future.

Interesting? Also with that lovely Pyramid Selling Scheme (from that certain MLM company where they always try and trick you into coming to their “Rha – Rha” meetings) – it is exactly the same tactic.

There is no “Substance” or reality and the Policies / Pyramid Scheme / Scam isn’t sold on credible results, analysis or relastic outcomes – but “Fluffy Clouds”, “Lying on a Beach making millions” or the Carbox Tax “Stopping worldwide C02 emissions”.

This is what you got to really watch out for – especially more these days.  Not just the Labor-Greens Government, or Cate Blanchett trying to look cool with her Hollywood Peers or even the annoying guy trying to con you into a dodgy pyramid scheme to go and fleece your mother, father, brother and sister – people are doing it very hard these days in Australia.

Desperation brings out the best and worst in people.  Desperation makes some people work harder and come up with great ideas to help the poor and their families, but then some come up with new “Con-Schemes” designed to make you suffer and buy them nice mansions or send their own kids to Private Schools (while you deal with the Credit Card debt they helped you create).

So remember boys and girls! Be careful out there! Keep a critical mind, think independently and don’t be suckered into stuff!

Am I saying be sceptical? Absoultely! Remember – the only people who don’t want you to be sceptical are trying to often sell you overpriced rubbish – or new taxes which will send jobs to China.  I wish I learnt this 20 years ago!

Positive Thinking: Making you feel Negative?

I don't have any problems - I just need to be more Positive!

I don’t have any problems – I just need to be more Positive!

This “Positive Thinking Fad” which really hit it’s peak in the 1990’s (but is still hanging around today) – is not just driving me nuts, has also really hurt some of my clients and the people I work with.

If you aren’t familiar with “Positive Thinking” – taken in it’s extreme form it’s basically “Snuffing” out “Negative Thoughts” with tons of “Positive Thoughts”.  As you can probably figure out, Negative Thoughts can often exist for very good reasons, so this can get you into trouble.

One con is where I have seen “Positive Thinkers” who feel bad, because they are doing something they shouldn’t be doing (i.e. not working hard enough, over-eating, smoking, addictions etc) snuff out their Negative Thoughts.  Those Negative Thoughts are actually very important! If you are over-eating your way to an early diabetes ridden death, then you should feel bad!

This type of delusional behaviour combined with the “Fad” of:

– Oh No! I have a “Negative Thought”!

– It’s bad, quick say something positive!

This can be extremely dangerous in that we can “Judge” ourselves badly for having a “Negative Thought”. Now don’t get me wrong, I am not saying we should go around the place and be negative – we need an intelligent balance of both! So why do the extremist “Positive Thinkers” generally have an agenda?

Here are some theories:

– Come to our seminar to get involved in our “Positive Thinking Cult” where we help lighten your wallet / purse.

– Don’t “Be Negative” just buy our expensive product and give us a go.

– If you want to be “Positive Like Me” (Douche Bag Hypster on Stage) then buy my products.

Just remember it’s a jungle out there! Don’t judge yourself for having “Negative Thoughts” – more often that not, it’s your sub-conscious mind prompting you to fix something up!

Positive Thinking Cults & Your Hip Pocket / Purse

Only the Pure of Heart (And Full of Money) can join our Elite Group!

Only the Pure of Heart (And Full of Money) can join our Elite Group!

There are a good stack of Cults, Fanatics and of course – good old Rip Off Merchants out there that totally love and get “Good Mileage” out of Positive Thinking.

Without naming any organizations in particular (in knowing how litigious these organizations can be), throughout my life I have been caught up in a organizations that are actually “Cults”. However, as they know they are “Cults” they really work hard in their marketing and the pitches used by their “Cultists” to make out that:

– We aren’t a cult any more than your local Footy Team or Corporate Workplace.
– We had some bad history, but that was years ago – we have changed (yes, sure you have).
– We are a “Success Cult” – therefore better than society.
– Society is “Bad” & “Evil” and because you are with us, you are “Better” than everyone else.

And of course, if people aren’t willing to join the “Cult”, they are either:

– Not Very intelligent.
– “Losers” (I have heard this used recently).
– Aren’t serious about their lives.
– Just need more convincing.

This is extremely scary! Not just MLM’s but also other organizations use this “Cultist” mentality to really brainwash their followers.

This is where you have to be very careful in Life & Business – you are walking along, minding your own business then someone approaches with a “Great Business Idea” or a “Radical Way of Improving your Life”.  I bet this has already happenned to you, but if it hasn’t my god watch out! Chances are they are trying to enlist you in their own cult!

In my early 20’s (very briefly) I got sucked into a very dangerous “Positive Thinking” type of cult that was all supposedly to improve peoples lives. It costed a lot of money and the cults where these “Brain Washing” sessions where people where forced (often against their will) to break-through problems in their lives. In fact, where it got very dangerous was that everyone had to “Bring Guests” along – because you “Love them” and care for them. They even framed it as “The people who bring more people, are more generous and caring people!”

I got out of this cult pretty quickly, but what was scary (in finding out afterwards) was that this organization has had a bad history of really hurting people and causing them to screw up their lives. Of course, they take “No Responsibility” for this, get you to sign away your rights – and even go as far to say that people who get a Negative Outcome from what they are doing – are actually “Not Doing it Correctly”.

Be it you got your own business or starting out – I really encourage you to be careful in this day and age! There are lots of desperate people out there (even with good intentions) that are sucked into these things and may try the stuff on you.

Watch yourself – it’s a Jungle out there! A Jungle full of “Positive Thinking Cults!”

Up Yours Society: Stop Trying to Control Me!

"Society" Just loves to keep a Tight Grip on Us?

"Society" Just loves to keep a Tight Grip on Us?

Without sounding like a “Conspiracy Theorist” crackpot – Society really does a great job of making us Conform and Brainwashing Us.

This happens for not only sinister intent, but for very very good reasons as well! Right from when we are a child and our parents (who are doing their best) are telling us what we are good at and what we aren’t good at, to the School Yard Evil Bully who is trying to hurt us, right through to Peer Group Pressure and then having to “Conform” in the Corporate Space – Society really doesn’t like us?

No that isn’t true. It is not that society doesn’t “Like Us”, it wants us to behave a certain way.

Now, there nothing wrong with following the Crowd! Seriously – I do mean that!

Where following the Crowd becomes a “Big Issue / Problem” is that if the Market Rewards you for being unique and you are trained to “Fit In” – then you are complete toast. All too many people I have worked with start out really “Shy & Sheepish” and until they really get through all the Conditioning / Brainwashing from Society, they really don’t get results and attract the Clients they deserve!

But if you are in your Own Business or in a Leadership Position where you have to really “Be Unique” and “Market Yourself” – following the crowd is a big problem!

So here is the big, big problem – after 20, 30, 40, 50, 60, 70, 80, 90, 100, 110+ years you have been around, how do we all of a sudden “Undo” all that Brainwashing and get over it fast?

The truth is that you can’t. Think about it. You have all these stupid “Positive Thinking” extremists out there who always make out how change is soooo easy (especially when you “Buy” their Products – which they really don’t need you too, because their millionaires right?)

However, through being aware of it and making the gradual transition you can really breakthrough all the boundaries and limitations that society has placed on you and start acting uniquely, getting it across to the market – and benefiting from Higher Priced Services / Offerings as well as an increase in your Client / Customer Base.

In myself, my colleagues and my clients – I have seen a range of key “Self-Limiting” beliefs, which you can really thank “Society” for.

Remember always, 50% of the Journey is awareness. The top 10 dis-empowering lies I have seen include:

1. There is Something Wrong with me.

2. I don’t have what it takes.

3. I am not Pretty / Attractive enough.

4. People just don’t like me.

5. I don’t deserve this because God / Jesus / Allah / Moses / “The Universe” don’t want me too.

6. If I gain something, I will lose something somewhere else.

7. My Husband / Wife / Boy Friend / Girl Friend / Gay Lover / Mistress won’t let me.

8. Because my life sucks because of someone else.

9. Because I am “Happy where I am” (Liar!).

10. I am not intelligent enough to get it done.

And you know what? These are all lies. Depending on how “Conditioned” we are, some of our “Lies” can be very easy to identify – but some can really sit in our subconscious mind and totally FIRE TRUCK up our lives.

So my advice? Let’s start by telling all those people that pushed us around to FIRE TRUCK themselves, and go and get FIRE TRUCKED.

If you were anything like me or many people I know and work with – one day (if not already), you will get sick of this and say “I’m done”.

In fact, what did it for me was being in a relationship with a Woman for many years that who wasn’t inherently evil or anything – but really had a sullen view of themselves and their world. She used to always kill my dreams, put me down – and because of some of the reasons in Part 1) – I really didn’t like myself and therefore convinced myself I deserve her. Was it all her fault? Probably 50 / 50 – but in a way I am grateful for that experience. It pushed me beyond and made me sick of trying to “Fit In”.

So that is my story and what is yours? How does it relate? What have people down to you? What have you done to yourself? I don’t know your own personal circumstances or problems; however I have got some general tips developed from the hundreds of people I have worked with over the years:

1. Cut the Lies – Stop telling yourself all the negative stuff. By all means if you do something wrong tell yourself negative stuff, but if you are doing your best and you are just being “Negative” to yourself for no reason – stop it now. It’s Society talking!

2. Respect Yourself – This is not about “Being Arrogant” or putting others down. It’s about having a realistic and “Good-Natured” appreciation of you. After all, don’t appreciate or have any respect for yourself – you reckon anyone else will?

3. Fight the Good Fight – Don’t let those Positive Thinking Extremists lie to you! The minute you plan your “Flag” and say this is me; people are going to attack you! This is called anything from “Tall-Poppy Syndrome” right through to “Conformism”. It’s all good to say “Be Your Own Person”, but there are many out there that don’t want that. Watch out – they will come for you so be prepared!

4. Balance “Positive & Negative” Thinking – Don’t do what I did and “Pretend” the world is a safe, happy place where everything is full of rainbows, sunshine and wheelbarrows of money arriving at your door step. The world is full of great people as well as thieves, murderers, liars and people who use Apple Mac’s (PC is better!).

5. Protect Others – Doing your own thing is a tough journey and in the process, people will like what you are doing and you will inspire them to do the same thing (in fact, a lot come and join you!). It is hard starting out, so make sure you help your fellow man!

6. Treat Yourself Well – This doesn’t mean buying an Expensive Car with your Credit Card or eating 1.2kg of Cadbury Chocolate. This means “Appropriately” looking after you with Healthy Food, Relationships and “Non-Destructive” activities.

7. Cut the Addictions – Food, Drugs, Sex, Pornography, Drama, TV, Internet, Smoking etc. Addictions are easy to pick up, so if you have some addictions start working on them. Going “Cold Turkey” is easy for some, hard for others. Remember, you may have to quit something 10 times, until the 11th you really knock it for good!

8. Develop a Plan – Just “Being Yourself” is vague. Make sure you really think through why you want it and what you big goal is. Lose some weight? Look after your family? Make some more bucks?

9. Be “Intelligent” – God & Jesus Christ gave you a brain. Don’t be a “Positive Thinking” wacko and stuff things up. Use your brain and make intelligent moves.

10. Start – Talking about it never works. Start the process. Tell you stupid Boyfriend / Girlfriend to go away, put down the fork – start taking vitamins, work harder – just do something to get you going the right way!

This process isn’t easy – but the sooner you start the better. I wasted at least 15 years of my life being sucked into “Societal Brainwashing”. It’s hard getting out of it – but once you start too, you will never look back!

I wish I learnt this one 20 years ago! 🙂

Success: Turning Up 1 Time More after Everyone Quits!

Learning to Overcome Rejection - Oww, it hurt's about here?

Learning to Overcome Rejection – Oww, it hurt’s about here?

To me this is a very profound concept. In not just my own Small Business, but when I used to Job Hunt – I really learnt how hard the “Real World” can actually be.  My great Mother (God Bless Her) is an amazing woman and Ex-Inspector in the Police Force. She was beaten up for years by an Abusive Father (alcoholic you name it!), fought with the UN (in Peace Keeping Operators and had fought in real gun battles) and seen lots of people die in front of her.

This realism gave her a great grounding in the respect that she used to tell me “The World is a Tough Place”, “It’s Hard” and Success if often turning up 1 time more after everyone else quits.

If anything, I have learnt that I should have listened to my mother more often! But oh no, her comes all the “Positive Thinkers” out of the woodwork. They come along, hype you up and make out with their tools or a “Simple, Dog-Easy to Follow Strategy” you can make $1,000,000 / Min without leaving the house.

You and I are intelligent people. You and I know that they are probably one of two things:

– Lying to rip you off, show off, or take advantage of you.
– Have had Mummy & Daddy pay for everything and have had a sheltered life.

In my experience, it’s usually about 60% / 40% – or a combination of both. The reality is that the “Pain / Avoidance of Rejection” kills many Small Businesses and prevents many of us getting the Promotions in our Careers that we deserve.

My mum always said you got to take the pain. You got to stick at it. You got to survive the longest. It’s such a true lesson, the people who often succeed aren’t the “Smarter” ones or the “Better Looking” ones, it’s the ones that stick at it beyond everyone else that quits.

So why do we ignore mums advice? Because it’s painful! In our own business, we get so much rejection. And it’s tough! But once you get over the fact that it’s “Tough” and enjoy the process, the “Law of Averages” kick in.

If you only meet 1 person a day and get rejected – it’s soul crushing! If you meet 10 people a day and get rejected 8 times – it’s great! (Because you have 2 wins!). I know it can suck at times. I know it can feel really bad when you get rejected.

But when you avoid rejection, you are avoiding the possibility of growing your business, getting that dream job – or even finding a partner! My advice to you – EMBRACE REJECTION! It’s not easy at the start, but I can promise you – each day you do it, it becomes that bit easier. And to all you lying “Positive Thinkers” out there – grow up! Treat others and yourself with honesty and respect!

Boy – I wish I learnt this 20 years ago!

How does “Positive Thinking” Make Failure Harder?

If Your Milk Turns Sour - Don't Be The Pussy Who Drinks it!

If Your Milk Turns Sour - Don't Be The Pussy Who Drinks it!

“Positive Thinking” it it’s extreme form encourages one to just focus on the “Positives” in a given situation (duhh!).

Well that sounds obvious, and in fact – it’s great being Positive right? After all – when we feel positive, we just feel better, things flow better and we are likely to get what we want?

The universe will provide? All that “Financial Freedom” flowing to me in abundance? And oh no – watch out for those evil “Negative Thinkers” out there, who suck and work 9 to 5 everyday for their “Miserable Lives”.

After all, people who work 9 to 5 suck right? They aren’t enlightened like those “Positive Thinkers?” huh?

Interesting concept “Positive Thinkers”! How do you explain why 1/2 the world lives in Poverty? Let me guess – they are the “Negative Thinkers” according to your logic?

When I first arrived in Sydney (after moving up with Hobart) I picked up a contract with a really unethical and well known employer that really has a lot of people out there who aren’t big fans of them.  During this time, I really encountered pretty much the extreme or “Workplace Politics” from all directions.

As things were tough (and I had a lot of sources telling me how great “Positive Thinking” was) I gave it a shot and really applied it in this sense.  Cutting a long story short, by using “Positive Thinking” it made me really inactive, it stopped me considering relevant scenarios and making contingency plans in case I got the sack or something there.

So eventually, my contract ended early, things didn’t play out my way and while I was so busy “Being Positive” I didn’t deal with potential relaties such as being unemployed, or being prepared for tough times.

“Positive Thinking” in this case, got me into a lot of trouble – it didn’t keep me aware of my environment, or preparing for when things go bad.

Using a perishable goods example, it’s a bit like having 1L of Milk and the expiry date just lapses.  A bit of “Realistic Thinking” kicks in saying, hmm – I better do something about it. But then on no, “Positive Thinking” will tell you to ignore that and focus on how great things are, i.e. it came from a cow, it’s in a nice carton.  You then don’t do anything about it – and hey presto, your Milk Goes Sour!

Then you tell a “Positive Thinker” what happened to you and they just say you aren’t “Positive Enough!”.  Failure for many people (including myself) is a very tough thing to deal with, but “Positive Thinking” just makes it harder and worse.

If you are in a sticky situation or something isn’t going your way, please don’t screw up like I did and don’t be a “Positive Thinker” here – please be realistic and do whatever you need to do nice and early.

After All – if your Milk turns sour, don’t be the Pussy who ends up drinking it!

I wish I learnt this stuff 20 years ago!