Great Guys with Bad Girls, Great Girls with Bad Guys, the Honest Friend and the Lying Friend – our society is filled with tons of examples of the “Good-Natured” person being taken for a ride or taken advantage of by the “Not-so-Good Natured” person for their own personal gain.
Depending on whether you know me or not (let alone agree with the next statement), I have considered myself a “Nice Person”. I am certainly not perfect by any means, but I consider myself fairly Good-Natured, Helpful and the like.
I also have a range of friends which some are really really Good-Natured and Nice people – in fact, much more than little old me! One thing I have really started to pay attention to and become more aware of, is how you often get really nice people which are often the victims of predatory behaviour of people that are simply selfish shysters (or at the very least quite self-centered and care little for their good natured friend).
A good example of this is in a friend of a friend. This man is very simple, incredibly good-natured however one that society would label as “Slow” (I certainly don’t think that, but it’s a common perception of this person). This poor person has this so called “Girlfriend” that demands lots of money from him, stops him having an extra friends and especially having any other female friends is completely forbidden. A “Positive Thinking” will tell a person in this situation, just to “Visualize” things improving. But in this case, I can promise you a “Positive Thinker” here will get continually abused!
Yet, this girlfriend does what she damn well pleases and certainly doesn’t apply the same rules to herself!
Another great example was one of my own great friends who I have known since I was 15. In her early 20’s she met this guy that she fell head over heels for her – and I am sure you know where I am going with this story – he took total advantage of her and broke her heart (and he damn well knew he was doing it too).
This makes me think, why is it so easy to manipulate “Good-Natured People?”. I think where this can be a problem is that if you are “Good-Natured” it’s easy to assume that everyone else is. That is:
– Because I won’t steal that Ladies / Guys Purse or Wallet it means that no one will take mine.
That is a fairly natural assumption, i.e. if you don’t believe it’s fine to run around killing people, then why on earth would anyone harm you?
Unfortunately, you and I both know – this is just not how the world works and there are unfortunately some very dark (and in some cases very evil) people in this world that are expert manipulators which I bet some specialize in how to really take advantage of “Good-Natured” people. By learning this the hard way, I have realized it is great to be “Good-Natured” (as I would want to be any other way), however one cannot be naive in this day and age.
When you are just so “Damn Positive” and you “Visualize” all this great stuff and you are “So Damn Happy” and you just believe the “World is the best place” – and you take this to the extreme, you can really set yourself up for a complete disaster (as not only I, but many others of my good friends have).
By the same token, you wouldn’t swim in shark infested waters, because the “Sun is so nice”, and the “Water is so Warm” – that in essence what delusional extremes of “Positive Thinking” tells you to do. I think being “Truly Positive” is a great thing, however in this world you have to balance that with a good dose of “Realism” to ensure that you don’t get manipulated or sucked-in to some elses agenda!