Let it be known that is this has been the BEST BIRTHDAY OF MY LIFE. I have loved it today and I have been working flat out all day. I started my day with a very special event (which I shall come back too), followed my meeting Sarah Hardy in Hornsby, calling up 42 people for 4Networking Sydney CBD, meeting the wonderful Hacy Tobias, and then doing a 4Networking Team Training Webinar just tonight.
I have loved the opportunity to be working on projects that not only help people but I get appreciated in.
However, before my day kind of begun I gave myself the “Best Birthday Present” I could ever have. It was standing up to situations where people have really used me and taken advantage of my good nature. Even though I consider my time very well optimized, I have “Yes” got myself caught up in a few projects that just haven’t served me at all.
They all start with great intentions, basically people inviting me into projects, telling me how wonderful that they are going to be, and if I give my life to them – they are just going to reward me with lots of great stuff. Even though in many instances this has come true (such as 4Networking Australia just being wonderful) – over the past year I have been caught up in a few “Time-Killers”. That is, shared projects whereas I end up doing all the work and people just take from me and laugh.
As a great Birthday Gift, I found out with one of them I helped out for a long time, they are having a massive dinner / celebration with all their friends and not inviting me. Just lovely! I shall remember that one. Great present but that is life in the modern world.
Secondly, there there is another faction which I have helped with tons of free hours who have just really taken the mickey out of me. They really have done me quite a bit of harm, so I gave them notice today and I am out of there. Yay!
What I have learnt especially in the business world that is if you aren’t careful, sometimes people take advantage of you. Being my birthday of course – I felt it was time to really stand up for myself and respect myself the same as I would anyone else.
My advice and lesson? In business, your time is short so make sure you are spending it only with awesome people that appreciate what you are doing. If they are not, just move on! It’s the best way to be in life and it’s short – you want to be working with people who mirror your own awesomeness.
Thank you from Edward Zia – Old Persian Man and Birthday Boy!
P.S Don’t wait to your birthday to stand up to people pushing you around. Just tell them to go away right now!